32 Wild & Kinky Things to Do With Your Boyfriend In and Out the Bedroom

If you really want to go wild in bed and turn your man on, you need to know some kinky things to do with your boyfriend. Here’s what you need to know!

Getting kinky with your boyfriend comes easy, once you know what you’re doing. Rather than being afraid of his reaction, be confident about your actions and words, and watch as he loosens up and looks at you like he’s never looked before.

Add some creativity and a new location to that confidence. Put away the good girl act, and tell him what you want—how and where.

Think beyond the bedroom, and treat him to a steamy, dirty, insatiable romp on the floor or table, in the car or a public bathroom, and fulfill each others’ desires.

Are you looking for a full list of the best kinky ideas that are worth trying at least once in your lifetime? Check out the top 50 kinky ideas for a lust-filled and sexy relationship before reading on!

The best wild and kinky things to try with your boyfriend

Here’s a list of guaranteed ways to leave him speechless and coming for more!

1. Be the biggest tease in the shower

Many couples have sex in the shower and consider that steamy enough. While it can be exciting, that’s still thinking inside the box.

Try intentionally leaving the door cracked when you shower and letting him spy on you. Let him shave you, lather you up, or both. Whatever you do, don’t have sex until after you’re good and “clean” for him. [Read: How to have sex in the shower and have a really wild time with these shower tricks!]

2. Be an exhibitionist

There’s something wild and kinky about going out wearing a dress or skirt, without panties, that makes a woman feel sexy and free—even naughty.

While your boyfriend might be jealous at first or concerned someone else might lay eyes on you, there are ways around that. 

Choose a skirt that is just short enough to turn him on, but that won’t show anything, and don’t bend over. It’s a giant tease, especially if you hand him your panties underneath the table! [Read: How to discreetly get naked in public for that sexy rush]

3. Inappropriate times are the best times to sext your man

Next time he’s at work, visiting relatives, or taking an exam, send him dirty sexts and pictures. Tell him how it feels when he goes down on you, and send him teasing pictures.

If you want to be kinky with your boyfriend, text him about your fantasies, and describe what you’re doing at the time, assuming it’s relevant *which is probably naughty as sin*. [Read: Seductive selfies – The best selfie poses and tips to show yourself off]

4. Have sex in a public place

This is a really kinky thing to do with your boyfriend, because bedrooms are a given, but get boring very quickly.

Try having sex in a public bathroom, in a hidden spot at a park, a rooftop, or the car while in a parking lot. The only limit is your kinky imagination. [Read: 41 wild and naughty ideas to have sex beyond the bed and have a fun time]

5. Try role-playing, in public

Role-play is a great idea, and whoever thought of it first is a god. Meet up at a bar, and pretend you’re strangers. Or catch up in a dance club, and let your boyfriend buy you a drink.

No one knows you’re a couple, other than the two of you. And as you get on the dance floor and make out with your boyfriend or allow him to touch you inappropriately, you’d feel like a dirty little secret that’ll only make both of you way hornier![Read: The sexual role play guide and examples for beginners]

6. Practice some vehicular masturbation

Next time you’re both in the car, heading out to dinner, a friend’s place, or just running errands, start touching yourself.

It’ll catch him by surprise, and get him rock hard just watching you. He’ll have to focus on the road, so it’s a tease, but that doesn’t mean he won’t reach out and give you a helping hand.

7. Surprise him on his lunch break for a quickie

Sure, he might be too tired after work, but what about during? Text and ask what time he goes on lunch—unless you already know—and show up, ready to take him out back! [Read: 15 sexy ways to have the best quickie every single time]

8. Film it and use it later, together

There’s nothing sexier and more kinky than looking back as your boyfriend gets his way with you—unless, of course, you film it.

Not only does it make sex hotter, but it also makes for a naughty good time later, once you’re both ready to go again. Play it in the background, and get off to each other like never before.

9. Heat up the hot tub

Don’t heat up the hot tub, expecting it to make you feel hot. Go into it feeling hot. Practice some oral sex, or even just foreplay, in the hot tub, and tease him for a while, before letting him have his way with you. Then switch. [Read: 12 foreplay moves that work exceptionally well on men]

10. Flat surfaces aren’t safe

Make it a goal to do it on every table, counter, and wall in your home, and watch how quickly the bedroom is forgotten.

11. Mirrors are an asset to kinky couples

Want to try something that’s so effortlessly easy and yet really kinky with your boyfriend? If there’s a large mirror in your bathroom, home office, or even your closet, try heating things up in front of it. If you can place it on the bed or prop it against the wall, that’s even better!

Not only will you feel way hornier watching your boyfriend making out with you in the mirror, but it will also give you access to all sorts of views you couldn’t get otherwise.

12. Turn productivity into something far more fun

Next time you have work to catch up on at home, do it naked, wearing nothing but his favorite items on you. It may be heels, knee-highs, or glasses.

He won’t be able to resist sitting in your home office, watching you, and maybe even touching himself while he watches.

13. Take the kink outdoors

Some shy couples might opt to do this if they have a private backyard, but others might do it regardless. Having sex outside, in the yard, is a great way to add an element of danger, or exposure, without having to go anywhere “public.”

14. Have sex in a very inappropriate place

Whether it’s a library, at the car parking, your parent’s car, an elementary school, or a park at night *when no one’s around!*, no place is safe from you two! [Read: Sexual bucket list – 35 naughty deeds to build your dirty wishlist]

15. Sexify your kitchen

Next time you feel like baking, but you’re also horny, combine the two. Wear nothing but an apron, and tease him. Let him taste the batter on your finger, and then he’ll want to taste you.

16. Do him in the back of a sex shop

Slightly trashy, but totally thrilling; you’re both there to get some dirty items, anyway. Take things up a notch and do him in the back of the shop, either behind the curtains, in the dressing room, or even just the back of the building.

17. Make a sex date

If you know you’re free for a half-hour at 4 PM, let him know and watch as he does anything to be there. He’ll spend the whole day staring at the clock. [Read: The subtle ways to get your man in the mood for naughty romance]

18. Surprise sex

If your man just walked in from work, greet him wearing barely anything, and unzip his pants. Take him however you want him: on the floor, couch, table, and anywhere else you want.

Take the lead, use him, and watch as he gives you your way willingly and eagerly. [Read: Surprise sex – How to shock and awe your man with your surprise moves]

19. Dirty, steamy lipstick messages

Next time he’s in the shower, leave him a dirty message with lipstick on the mirror. He’ll read it on his way out of the bathroom, and find you waiting on the kitchen counter. [Read: 50 dirty, sexy things to say to your boyfriend]

20. Spice up those family reunions

If you’re at your parent’s house, visiting family, or even driving with family, don’t be afraid to get frisky. Give him a hand job under a blanket in the backseat, or scurry off into another room in the house.

Go outside, or take over the basement. Wherever you choose to do it, you’ll have to be quiet, and you could get caught, making for a kinky time with your boyfriend.

Kinky sex toys to try with your boyfriend

Now that we’ve talked about some general ways you can get kinky with your boyfriend, let’s talk about some sex toys you can use in the process to make things way more kinky and naughty! [Read: 15 of the most common types of sex toys all singles and couples must know]

1. Bondage

If you want to try being tied up or having your partner do it, why not try some handcuffs or bondage tape? It helps you feel vulnerable. You just need to agree on who is going to be the dominant one and who is going to be the submissive.

2. BDSM kit

If you want to go beyond bondage and get even kinkier with your boyfriend, you can try a starter BDSM sex kit.

This is great if you’re just a little curious about S&M but you’re not really ready to get all Fifty Shades of Grey yet. You can dip your toes into the kink with blindfolds, whips, or anything else you want to try. [Read: BDSM 101 – how to be dominatrix in the bedroom]

3. Dildos

This is a classic sex toy. Everyone has seen it in porn movies and at sex stores. They are very popular with both men and women.

For anyone who doesn’t know, a dildo is a fake plastic penis and it can penetrate either the vagina or the anus. They come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors, and textures.

4. Vibrators

Vibrators do just that – vibrate. It’s one of those sex toys that can stimulate the woman’s clitoris and even the man’s penis during sex. Vibrators are a way to achieve quick and easy orgasms!

5. Cock rings

A cock ring is worn around the guy’s penis. The purpose of it is so he can maintain a longer erection so the sex can last longer. So, if you want to get kinky with your boyfriend, but he doesn’t last very long in bed, this is perfect for him – and you. [Read: What does a cock rink do? How to put it to work the right way]

6. Penis pumps

A penis pump is designed to keep the blood flowing through the penis. And as the word “pump” means, it gives the illusion that the man has a larger dick.

This is especially helpful if he has some problems getting or keeping it up – or if he is insecure about his size.

7. Butt plugs

Some people don’t like anal play, but if you do, then you should try butt plugs. A butt plug is designed to be inserted into the rectum for pleasure.

They are smaller than dildos in some ways and tend to be shorter. And they can also have a flanged end to prevent it from being lost inside of you.

Kinky sex positions to try with your boyfriend

Last but not least, let’s talk about some different kinky sex positions. These are a lot more interesting than your normal missionary one. [Read: 12 easy sex positions that look expert-level sexy and feel real good]

1. Four on the floor *while seated*

Have your boyfriend sit on a couch or chair. Then, you sit on top of his lap and mount him facing away like a reverse cowgirl position.

Once he is inside you, then you should lean forward into a stretch with both of your hands on the floor. Your butt cheeks will spread a little, and that allows your boyfriend to touch your erogenous zones.

2. Touch your toes

You should start by bending forward so you touch your toes *if you can*. Then, your boyfriend stands behind you and enters. This one does take balance and flexibility though.

It helps if your boyfriend anchors himself by leaning against a wall while holding you so you don’t fall on your face! This allows your boyfriend to thrust deep which is pleasurable for both of you.

3. Standing oral

Whoever is going to receive oral sex first should stand up while the other one kneels or sits on the bed or chair. Then, you get oral that way.

This is a great way to get some foreplay in and get really aroused, or you can just do it on its own. [Read: Oral sex tips for women – The effortless way to give the perfect blowjob]

4. Happy baby

For this one, lie on your back while spreading and lifting your legs into the air. Then, you should hold your feet – just like a baby does.

Your boyfriend can penetrate you just like when you are in the missionary position. This is actually a yoga pose that provides your boyfriend with a hot view and you with a hip-opening stretch to bring you extra pleasure.

5. Reclined butterfly

You should lie on your back with your legs in a butterfly position, which is your feet together and your knees spread out. Then, your boyfriend faces you, gets on top, and enters.

This is also a yoga position, and it can help you lean back and relax. And it can also increase your orgasm too.

[Read: 50 kinky things that are worth doing at least once in your lifetime]

Kinky sex is exciting because you can explore your sensuality together. Don’t be afraid to consider the impossible, and show him how crazy you can really be.

Unleash that frisky diva of yours, and take advantage of spare time, hidden places, public places, and *most of all* him. Enjoy all of these kinky things to do with your boyfriend!