26 Secrets to Deepthroat Like a Pornstar & Leave a Guy Gasping in Pleasure

Are you looking to up your blowjob game to surprise your man? Use these tips and secrets and you’ll know how to deepthroat like a pro in no time!

Most of you know how to give a normal blowjob, but if you really want to blow his mind – welcome to the world of deepthroating!

Deepthroating is a somewhat rare skill among women. It’s not that a majority cannot deepthroat, the issue is that they don’t know how to deep throat. But, if you learn the proper technique, it’ll feel like ecstasy for him.

What is deepthroating?

Deepthroating is a blowjob technique in which the person giving the blowjob takes the length of the penis into their mouth until it reaches the back of their throat. Depending on the penis size, this could mean the entire penis, or half of it.

Why is deepthroating so popular?

Deepthroating is a great way to spice up the bedroom. Although it was once explicitly an act of BDSM, deepthroating has since made its way into vanilla bedrooms. There are a number of reasons why deepthroating is so popular for different types of sex.

Deepthroating can be used as a breath play kink. By having your mouth filled all the way from a penis, your breathing becomes limited, thus enabling the kink. Although not all deepthroaters have this kink, it is very popular among the BDSM community. [Read: BDSM tips and tricks for curious first timers]

Many people who deepthroat enjoy the feeling of fullness, and their mouth and throat being stretched. For others, they enjoy the sensation of choking and their eyes watering.

In a less extreme sense, many people have physical pleasure from deepthroating because of the psychological aspect of it. They feel accomplished, cared for, and impressive because they can please their partner.

There are many reasons why deepthroating is so popular. Most of the reasons come down to submissive and dominant play. When you deepthroat, you are in charge. You can decide how submissive or how dominant you want your partner to be.

How many inches can a woman take comfortably?

Before we get into this question, we should start by affirming that everyone is made differently.

How much a woman can take comfortably is dependent on her gag reflex tolerance and her mouth and throat width. Some women can take more, while others can only take less. Either is fine and completely normal!

Your gag reflex is triggered by a soft palette in the back of your throat, and it is usually activated when something touches your tonsils, the roof of your mouth, or the back of your throat.

Your palate then contracts, which causes that gag sensation. For some women, this is easily triggered. While for others, it is rarely triggered.

Do not force anything that is uncomfortable for you. Ever.

If you are determined to deepthroat your guy, you will need to ease your way to it with practice. We have tips and secrets to help you do just that. [Read: How to please a man with your mouth – lip smacking blowjob tips]

How to prepare to deepthroat your guy

Deepthroating isn’t something you should just jump into on a whim. There are serious discussions you need to have with your guy before you perform the act. Here are three of the most important things to consider when preparing to deepthroat:

1. Establish strong communication

Strong communication is vital when having any kind of sex. And when engaging in sex that has a risk of being dangerous, like deepthroating, communication is all the more important. Both you and your partner need to establish trust with one another before going all in.

Your guy needs to be able to communicate with you in ways other than words since your mouth will be a bit busy.

Before you start the deed, discuss how you’re feeling and what you are comfortable with. Turn-ons and turn-offs for each of you should be discussed prior. Establish that you and your guy are on the same page before you get to the fun part.

2. Have a safe gesture

Having a safe gesture is also vital when engaging in oral sex. A safe gesture, like a safe word, is a gesture you do to communicate with your partner and let them know that you need a moment’s break from the activity.

Safe gestures are very important to have during oral sex because the activity requires you to be non-verbal, therefore, unable to use your regular safe word.

When discussing safe gestures with your partner, make sure you clarify the meaning behind each safe gesture you use. Some non-verbal cues might be to stop the act entirely, while other cues might be to slow down the pace or rhythm.

Common safe gestures are hand signals, specific number of pats or soft hits, or making noise using other objects. No matter what it is, be sure you are on the same page with your partner about your safe gesture.

3. Get comfortable

To perform well, you need to feel well. Take time before going in to loosen up your mouth and facial muscles. Engage in foreplay with your guy to calm your nerves and get in the mood.

If you have a designated position or location you’ll be at, make it as comfortable as possible for yourself. Don’t be hesitant to put some pillows or blankets down for maximum comfort!

Do whatever it is you need to do to get comfortable. Although he may be the one receiving the oral, you are still just as important and involved in the act. So don’t overlook your body and needs.

Deepthroating positions

There will be some positions that you’ll enjoy giving a blowjob in more compared to others. This is usually based on personal preference, however, there are some popular deepthroating positions you should know about.

1. The boss chair

This position is casual and beginner friendly. Have your guy sit in a chair and spread his legs. Then, you kneel in front of him on the ground. This position allows you to take control of the speed and rhythm. [Read: Slow blowjob – how to blow a guy in slow motion & leave him quivering]

You will want to be sure he is accessible from the chair he is sitting in *basically just make sure the chair isn’t too tall*. And if your feet or knees become uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to lay down blankets or pillows to get maximum comfort!

2. The table surfer

The table surfer is a more complex position, but it is still fun. For this position, the girl lies on a table with her head hanging over the edge. From here, the guy can enter her mouth while he stands.

Although this is an exciting position, it is important that you and your partner have great communication and established safe gestures. Because the girl is on the table, she will not be able to use her full body the way she would be able to in the boss chair position. Always prioritize safety!

3. 69

Ah, yes, the famous 69 position. For those unfamiliar with this position, the 69 is essentially when the two partners position themselves in a way that creates the number 69. Each partner lays down facing the other’s feet. From there, both partners give each other oral at the same time.

This is a great position for reaching tough angles. The 69 can be performed in different ways as well. You and your partner may lay him on his back, while you hover above him. For a more casual approach, each of you may lay on your sides in the position.

How to deep throat like a pro – The moves to take you deep

If you are new to deepthroating, have no fear. We have 10 tips and secrets to mastering the art of deepthroating.

1. Practice on a dildo

If you’re nervous or new to deepthroating, and you aren’t ready to practice on a penis, opt for a dildo instead!

A banana, cucumber, or any other similarly shaped object will also do, just choose whichever one you have lying around. That way, you don’t have to think about anyone else, it’s just you and the fake dick. Always remember to wash everything before and after. [Read: How to master the art of the perfect blowjob]

2. Learn to control your gag reflex

This biggest fear when it comes to deepthroating is triggering the gag reflex. Lucky you, there are techniques you can do to desensitize it. You will need to simply adapt to the feeling of something touching your throat.

You can take your fingers, dildo, or toothbrush and slowly go toward the back of your throat. When you feel the gagging sensation, suppress it, and hold it there for a couple of seconds.

3. Find a position that works for you

You’ll want to go into a position that aligns your mouth and throat, creating less pressure on the sides of your throat.

One position is you lying on your back with your head hanging off of the bed. He’ll be standing up while he enters you – this is called the Lie Back Blowjob position.

The other, Jack Hammer, is you squatting and rolling your head back. He’ll be standing behind you as you suck him off. This is more for the pros. [Read: Secrets to give good head and blow his mind every time]

4. Develop your own comfort level

When you’re starting, you’ll need to develop your own comfort level and technique.

So, it’s best if your partner isn’t pushing your head down or grabbing your hair. That can come later, if you want, once the two of you are familiar with deepthroating. [Read: Head pusher- why some selfish guys do this & how to handle them]

For now, you need to be in control. Great ways to maintain control are by tying his hands up – or simply holding them.

5. Add a splash of citrus

When deepthroating, you will want things to be wet. It’ll help lubricate your throat and mouth, allowing his penis to slide in effortlessly.

If things are feeling a little dry in your mouth, don’t worry, that’s normal! Try drinking something with citrus to increase saliva production. [Read: Hot blowjob secrets to drive him wild with desire]

6. Stay hydrated

Better yet, if things are still feeling dry, drink water!

Not only will water help make things a little more slippery, but it is also important to keep yourself hydrated when performing oral sex. Make sure you have a cup of water accessible to you and take a moment to drink whenever you need it.

7. Don’t forget to breathe

You’re probably thinking that this is a no-brainer, but it’s more complex than it looks. When you have a penis stuffed all the way into your throat, breathing doesn’t become natural. So, you’ll want to learn to breathe through your nose.

If you’re having problems breathing through your nose, then every 10 seconds, pull his penis out and take a breath. You can use your hands while you take a break, as well.

8. Take breaks

As we said, taking breaks is great for all types of deepthroaters. Give your mouth and throat a rest every once in a while and keep going with your hands. [Read: 34 hand job tips, secrets & positions to give a handjob that drives him wild]

Or, if you need a break to rest from the activity, let your partner know and take your break. You’ve deserved it. Be sure not to overwork yourself past your limits.

9. Finish down your throat

There are three ways to finish off a blowjob! You can swallow, spit, or have them ejaculate on you. However, when you’re deepthroating, the ideal is to let them ejaculate in your throat.

If you don’t like the taste of semen, don’t worry, you won’t actually taste anything, since it won’t enter your mouth. Plus, this will feel amazing for your man. [Read: How to swallow cum without gagging & go from spitter to swallower]

10. If you don’t use it, you lose it

Yeah, we know what you’re thinking. But this isn’t some muscle memory that you can just quit doing and come back to it ten years later. Exercising and practicing techniques will help in your deepthroating longevity. You’re going to have to maintain it if you want to be able to do it whenever!

Advanced deepthroating techniques

If you’re looking to spice up your deepthroating play, we have a few of the most common and popular techniques for you to try with your guy. [Read: 37 best blowjob techniques, positions & tips to leave a guy gasping for more]

1. Humming

By humming while you take him in your mouth, the vibration from your lips travels down his length and creates a tingling, pleasurable feeling that is sure to make the hair on his arms stand up.

2. Licking his balls

When you are deepthroating, don’t be afraid to extend your tongue outwards and lick his balls. For many guys, gentle testicle play feels amazing. Just be sure you communicate with your man beforehand about his turn-ons and his turn-offs. [Read: A sexy guide to take his balls & make him cum]

3. Spasms on his tip

Using your throat contractions, you can create intense sensations on the tip of his penis that will leave him feeling incredible.

4. Use your hands

There are ways you can incorporate your hands into play other than giving him a handjob. With his consent, you can stroke his thighs, hold his balls, or even play with his anus to increase his sensation.

Before you go exploring with your fingers, be sure that you discussed this with him beforehand!

When you should not deepthroat

Although deepthroating can be a fun way to spice up the bedroom, there are times when you should not partake in the act.

Assess your body, capabilities, and use caution if you are unsure about anything. If you are on the edge about whether or not you should deepthroat, here are your signs not to.

1. When you don’t want to

Do not have any kind of sex when you don’t want to. Even if you were the one who offered, and now you’re not feeling comfortable doing it, that is okay.

There is no shame in deciding you don’t want to have sex or perform a specific sexual act. Tell your partner how you’re feeling and take up on the activity some other time *only if you want to*.

2. When you have a sore throat

This is a common sense one. If you already have a sore throat or have any pains in your mouth or throat area, do not deepthroat. Take care of yourself and once you have recovered fully, give it another shot.

3. When you have an overactive gag reflex

If your gag reflex is at all a concern to you, it’s better to be safe than sorry. We suggested exercises to help strengthen the reflex, but these techniques may not work for everyone, and that’s okay.

Do not push yourself or you might get seriously injured. It won’t be fun explaining things in the emergency room.

4. If you have used numbing spray

Although it seems like a good idea, you should never use numbing spray when you are going to deepthroat. Instead, practice desensitizing your gag reflex, or do not deepthroat at all.

When you gag, it is your body’s natural way of informing you that something is wrong and potentially dangerous. You do not want to remove your body’s ability to alert you if there is a serious problem.

5. When you have mouth sores

As we said before, if you have any mouth pain, it’s best to put off deepthroating until you’re recovered. You should prioritize your health and not risk worsening any illnesses you currently have.

6. When there is risk of an STD/STI

Before you engage in any sexual act with a new partner, the both of you should be tested for any types of STDs or STIs.

If one of your tests comes back positive, you should not engage in sex, whether it be oral or penetration. Instead, take a trip to the doctor to discuss options. This is for your health, your partner’s health, and any future partner’s health. [Read: How to avoid getting STDs]

Now you know how to deepthroat, so, all you need to do is get out there and practice. Sure, the first couple of times may be a little awkward, but once you nail it down, your man will love it!