25 Secrets to Make a Guy Cum Fast, Hard & Explode His Load In Minutes

If you want to impress the guy in your life, you need to learn how to make a guy cum fast. He’ll be so impressed with your skills, he’ll be spellbound! 

When you have sex with a man, watching them experience an intense orgasm is pretty rewarding. It’s like, “that’s right, that was my mouth and vagina that knew how to make a guy cum fast.” Sure, it could have been some other woman, but she probably doesn’t know the techniques that you do.

Helping a man have a mind-blowing orgasm is not as easy as it looks. That’s why we’re here to tell you how to make him cum faster, harder, and flop down on the bed like a totally satisfied man.

If guys were honest about sex, nothing makes them happier than a girl who knows how to make him cum harder than anyone else. [Read: The average penis – easy answers that’ll make you a know-it-all]

How to make a guy cum fast – The secrets you need to know

The great thing about making someone have an insane orgasm is that they want you to experience that feeling as well. They want to make sure that you have what they just experienced too. So basically, it’s a win-win.

If you want to learn how to make a guy cum fast so you’re the one on his mind all the time, these tips will help you out. [Read: Penis facts – 18 shocking and weird dick facts you have no idea about]

1. First things first – you need to be enjoying it

If you’re not genuinely having a good time, he notices. The same goes for you. You should actually enjoy the experience if you want to make him cum faster.

If you’re bored and just want to get it over with, well, then maybe you should stop having sex with him. When he sees you enjoying the experience, it makes him even more aroused. [Read: Erotophobia – the variety of fears related to sexual intimacy]

2. Find out what he likes

Whether it’s concerning blowjobs or sexual positions, if you want to make him cum fast, find out what really turns him on. Maybe it’s deepthroating, anal play, or doggy style.

Now, if you don’t like what turns him on, you don’t have to do it. Then it’s not going to be enjoyable for you and that’s not what sex is about.

3. Mix it up

You don’t have to spend twenty minutes sucking his dick. Switch it up. You can give him a handjob, a blowjob, ride him, then go back to sucking his dick.

Remember, you want this to be enjoyable for both of you, so don’t do something because you feel like you must. [Read: 20 really kinky things to do with your boyfriend beyond the bed]

4. Try dirty talk

Men love dirty talk. Okay, not all men, but the majority do. So, don’t feel ashamed to let your naughty side loose with some dirty words.

Tell him what you want him to do, how you feel when he’s fucking you, or call him dirty names. This only makes him want to fuck you harder and faster. [Read: Your guide to making dirty talk sound so much sexier]

5. Build up the sexual tension

Build up the sexual tension throughout the day. Send him naughty texts and sexy pictures, and spend some time enjoying foreplay. It pays off when he’s having sex with you since the tension built up inside of him all day needs to be released!

6. Try new sex positions

Maybe you’re used to the same sex positions, which isn’t bad, but it’s nice to switch it up. Don’t be afraid to try new things. If it doesn’t work, just switch to another position.

Practice makes perfect! [Read: 16 hot, hot, hot sex positions you need to try]

7. Tell him where to cum

Now, some men find it extremely attractive when you tell them where you want them to cum. You don’t have to do this if you’d prefer them to cum in the condom, simply tell them you want them to cum inside *that is if they’re wearing a condom*.

But if you’re open to the idea, tell him where you want it – he’ll love it.

8. Grab his ass

When he’s about to cum, grab his ass and pull him harder into you. Or while he’s fucking you, grab and smack his ass during sex. It shows him that you’re really into it and gives him an extra boost.

Maybe it’s an ego thing, but the point is, it helps him to cum faster. [Read: How to stroke a guy’s ego and make him feel like a man when he’s down]

9. Try anal play

Test the waters and see if your partner is into it, as many men are scared or uncomfortable with the idea of anal play. However, if he’s down to try it, press your finger on his asshole just to start.

You can then move to insert a finger in his ass. But, you don’t want to do this right away – make him feel comfortable first. [Read: Erogenous zones for men – secret spots that’ll make him cum in minutes]

10. Moan

Moaning turns anyone on. It also shows that you’re having a great and pleasurable time, so why not let him know by moaning?

If he’s fucking you and you’re loving it, feel free to express yourself. Moan, scream, whatever it is that helps you release your sexual energy and makes you feel good.

11. Stay away from alcohol

Alcohol may give you both more liquid courage, however, it greatly affects sexual performance.

Plus, if you’re looking to make him cum faster, alcohol does the exact opposite. It makes him last for longer, possibly without ever reaching ejaculation.

So, if you’re tired of a locked jaw, tell him to drink water before seeing you. [Read: Alcohol’s effects on sex and your libido]

12. Don’t forget the perineum

Ah yes, this little guy. It’s the forgotten spot in a man’s sexual anatomy, but it’s very important. It’s the space between his balls and his asshole. That area is very sensitive when it comes to blowjobs and sex in general, and it’s overlooked.

Apply pressure to it if you want to speed up the process. It’s also a good substitute if he’s not into anal play.

13. Dry humping

We tend to underestimate dry humping, but if you do it right, you’ll have the guy ejaculating in his jeans. Rub yourself against him, throw in some dirty talk, and keep it going.

If you’re both in the zone and things are hot and steamy, there’s no way he won’t cum. [Read: Dry sex – your how-to guide for dos, don’ts, and the best positions]

14. If you want him to cum fast, go slow

We know what you’re thinking, “but I want him to cum fast so why would I go slow?”

During foreplay, go slow. This will build up the sexual tension between you. Keep building it up, and by the time you have sex, he’ll cum in no time.

15. Give role-play a try

Who doesn’t like a little role-play? The idea of being someone else can be a real turn-on for some people. If you and your partner are in a long-term relationship, maybe it’s time to play a role-play game.

Stay in character, and he’ll cum quickly. [Read: The sexual role-play guide for beginners]

16. Remember to relax

If you’re only focused on making his cum fast, then maybe next time rethink if you should have sex right now or wait until you have more time. If you’re pressuring him to cum fast, it’s not going to be fun, and he may not be able to.

So, just relax and enjoy it. Get into things, and when he sees you’re really into it – bam! [Read: How long should sex really last? The real score]

17. Ride ’em cowgirl!

Cowgirl is really a fun position, and it’s a great one if you want your partner to cum fast. Men are visual, and you riding him will do the trick. Plus, cowgirl allows the guy to penetrate his partner deeply, so he’ll cum quickly.

Oh, doggy isn’t a bad one either. [Read: How to own the cowgirl position and make it hotter] 

18. Play with yourself

We tend to think if we want to make a man cum fast, we need to put all of the attention on him. But that’s not necessarily going to make him cum fast. Try pleasing yourself in front of him.

Touch yourself in front of him and don’t let him touch you. Now that will turn him on.

19. Take charge of the situation

If guys were honest, the best sex they could ever have is from a girl who does all the work. If you think about it, they go to lengths to make themselves last longer during sexual intercourse in order to “perform” for their partner.

So, ladies, if you want to give your man an orgasm he’ll never forget, give him a treat by letting him lie down and relax as you take charge. [Read: How to be on top – 15 sexy moves to master it and rock his world]

20. Tap into his fantasies

All men have sexual fantasies that range from typical stuff to bizarre stuff that he’ll keep a secret to the grave.

Now, just imagine what his reaction would be if he realizes his partner is actually game to make his fantasy a reality. The trick is getting to know what his fantasies are, so pick your brain and do a little detective work.

You could get hints from bedroom conversations, from the porn or erotica he loves to watch, or you could ask him directly. [Read: Arousing sex fantasies to try in real life]

21. Understand his anatomy

Like a good machine, pressing his buttons right provides good results. While the penis is pretty straightforward when it comes to stimulation, every man has a different “area of interest” that you can exploit to lead him to a mind-blowing orgasm.

Knowing where these are can give you hints on where to touch or what sex positions stimulate his personal erogenous zones. [Read: How to find and stimulate the male g-spot]

22. Act sexier than normal

You know how men are quite pushy and enthusiastic when they’re horny? Try doing that to him for a change. Be the horny girlfriend that rips off his clothes and gives him surprise blowjobs at opportune moments. [Read: How to get horny fast – quick tips for instant horniness]

23. Multi-task

Earlier, we mentioned how men have personal erogenous zones and how they help to make him feel better during sex.

If you do something that leaves your hands free, get busy and use those hands to stimulate other areas. Fondle his balls while you blow him, suck on his nipples while giving him a hand job, or use toys. [Read: Erogenous zones for men – secret zones to touch your guy]

24. Use restraints

When a man nears his climax, he tends to break away from the action to give way for the release. This is called controlled ejaculation. Men do this as a delaying tactic or as a courtesy to you, to move the line of fire.

Using restraints on him during sex makes him relinquish control of his ejaculation to you giving way to a more raw, animalistic, and natural release when he comes.

25. Let him cum inside – safely

Mouth or vagina, it doesn’t matter. For guys, it is a real treat. First, he doesn’t have to pull out or give a warning, and second, it just feels great and natural.

Of course, if you’re going to do this, you need to make sure you’re being safe. [Read: The many tastes of cum – straight from women’s mouths]

Remember that sex is give and take

You’ve just put all that time and effort into learning how to make a guy cum fast. That means you’re a partner who wants to do the best for their mate. Pat yourself on the back.

But, remember that there is a huge amount of give and take in sex. If you’re trying all these new moves to try and get your guy to cum like never before, he needs to put in the effort to give you a treat too!

[Read: Kinky things you should try in your relationship to add heat fast!]

Now that you know how to make him cum faster and stronger, it’s time to go and practice. Trust us, he’ll be very encouraging of this.