23 Secret Signs of Female Bisexuality to Read a Bi Girl & How to Date Her

Sexuality is complicated. If you think that you might be a bisexual girl, or are you wondering about the signs of female bisexuality, then read on. 

Some people are very sure of their sexuality from a young age. Other people don’t figure it out until they’re much older. Some people never really work it out. The truth is that sexuality is a confusing and very personal subject that you need to work out for yourself. Sure, you can read up about the signs of female bisexuality and other types of sexuality, but it comes down to your own emotions and gut feeling.

If you think you might be a bisexual girl or another type of sexuality altogether, take your time and learn at your own pace.

Of course, there are signs of female bisexuality that you’ll be able to spot and they may help you figure out either your own sexuality or the sexuality of someone else. [Read: The 12 most common bisexual stereotypes we need to get rid of ASAP]

In this chat, we’re going to focus on bisexuality but again, remember that there are many different types of sexuality and you have to work out which one you identify with the most. 

First things first, what does it mean to be a bisexual girl?

If you identify as a bisexual girl, it means that you are a girl who is attracted to both men and women. You may have romantic and/or sexual relationships with either gender and you don’t tend to have a gender preference, although some bisexual people do prefer one gender over the other, just slightly. It’s a personal deal!

It’s easy to confuse being a bisexual girl and being gay, i.e. a lesbian, but there is one very strong difference. Basically, a lesbian is attracted to other women and they are not attracted to men at all. Bisexuals are attracted to both. [Read: The best of both worlds? How to date a bisexual woman]

The key to understanding the signs of female bisexuality and working out your own preference is knowledge and understanding. Understand the basics and you can work from there. 

Dealing with uncertainty in sexuality

Growing up sucks. Not only are you trying to live, pay your bills, get a job, and graduate college, but on top of that, you should figure out who you are and what makes you happy. That’s not a lot of pressure at all, right?

This is where sexual identity plays a big role. And when we’re in the dating world, it can even be more complicated.

Now it’s not just about you, it’s about someone else as well. You may be into a girl, but you’re just not sure if she’s into you or not. [Read: Are you bisexual or lesbian? How to understand your true desires]

Reading the signs of female bisexuality

Now, figuring out someone’s sexuality without them telling you isn’t that easy. Firstly, people are not so forthcoming with blurting out their sexuality to people they don’t really know, especially since bisexuality is often labeled as being confused.

That’s quite demeaning on many levels; to be bisexual doesn’t mean you don’t know what you want, it means you don’t consider gender to be a barrier if you’re attracted to someone. 

But that’s not the only reason. Many people are still figuring out their sexuality and even though they may give off bisexual vibes, they haven’t confirmed it with themselves.

So even though you’re trying to figure out someone’s sexuality, don’t assume that they have it settled in their head. You should also ask yourself whether it’s really your business to try and work it out in the first place! [Read: Pansexual vs bisexual – All the ways to tell the real difference]

No one said sexuality is a walk in the park. But you can at least learn the signs of female bisexuality to help you along the way.

1. You feel it

Perhaps if you’re a bisexual girl, you’ll feel it, or maybe if someone else is. Of course, these signs can help you. But at the end of the day, you have intuition. This may be vague, but there’s no other way to say it. You just feel it. [Read: How to listen to your gut and strengthen your inner voice]

2. She tells you

This is obviously the clearest and easiest way to figure out if someone’s bisexual. There’s no other sign that is clearer. If someone tells you they’re bisexual, they already have it figured out.

Maybe they’ve been in a bisexual relationship or had an experience and they know their sexuality. So, if they tell you, then you know.

3. She’s hooked up with the same gender before

Okay, some of us have had those moments where we’re drunk and made out with our friends. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re bisexual or even gay.

Now, if, for example, you’ve hooked up with the same gender and you really liked it and want to do it again, that may be a sign of female bisexuality.

However, as we talked about earlier, remember the differences between bisexuals and lesbians. [Read: Being sex-positive – Why this matters and why you need to get on board]

4. There’s an attraction to both genders

Female bisexuality is based on a woman being attracted to both men and women. This doesn’t mean they’ve had sexual experiences with the same gender. But, when they see a woman, they’re sexually attracted to her.

You don’t need to have sex with someone to know that you’re attracted to them. A bisexual girl may have never had sex with another woman, but they feel that strong attraction and that’s what sums up their sexuality. [Read: What it means to have a lesbian fantasy as a straight girl]

5. She’s dated both men and women in the past

Now, she doesn’t technically call them relationships, more like casual dating. But it seems she’s casually dated people from both genders. If she’s had past flings with both men and women, well, she may be bisexual.

6. She checks out other women

You may be having dinner with her and a good-looking girl walks by and you both check her out. Okay, women look at other women, this doesn’t mean they’re bisexual.

There is a difference between appreciating a woman who looks good and being attracted to her, after all. 

If she’s openly talking about their beauty or specific features that aren’t related to their outfit or make-up, she could be bisexual. [Read: Sexually fluid – What does this even mean in the dating world?]

7. She talks a lot about her same-sex experiences

We’ve all had some fun times. She seems to bring it up in conversation a lot. Whenever there’s an opportunity, she uses it right away to talk about that one time in the jacuzzi with some girl or a threesome she had on the weekend.

Her stories seem never-ending. Now, this doesn’t mean she’s bisexual but certainly leans on that side. [Read: Is she a lesbian? 20 signs your BFF is too close for comfort]

8. She dresses in a gender-neutral way

Of course, there are bisexual women that dress more feminine than others, but there are many bisexual women that dress more masculine or gender-neutral.

9. She identifies with LGBTQ

If she’s openly told you that she identifies with the LGBTQ community, then she’s most likely either a lesbian or bisexual.

Now, if you’re a guy, she’s probably bisexual. If you’re a woman, well, she could be either. If she identifies with the LGBTQ community, ask her what she identifies as. [Read: Definition of queer – What does the Q in LGBTQ really mean?]

10. She’s one of the guys

This can be considered a stereotype because many girls can act like one of the guys and that doesn’t mean they’re attracted to the same sex.

But if you’re looking for signs of female bisexuality, you could use this as a loose sign that she could be bisexual. She acts more masculine, hangs out with a lot of guys, and most of them interact with her as if she was a guy.

11. Her friends are mostly from the LGBTQ community

Most of her friends are a part of the LGBTQ community. Most of her girlfriends are lesbians, her guy friends are gay.

Again, it doesn’t mean she’s a lesbian or bisexual, but people tend to hang out with others that they identify with and feel comfortable and safe around.

12. She accessorizes with LGBTQ signage

She wears LGBTQ t-shirts or pins. If her t-shirt says “I’m bisexual!” or “Gay rights matter” she could very well be bisexual. But, on the flip side, she could be straight and simply supporting the LGBTQ community.

If she has family members or friends that are gay, wearing a pin could be to support them and not mean that she’s bisexual. [Read: Commonly accepted sex myths that are so wrong]

14. It’s all in the eyes

If you’re a woman and notice that another woman is holding eye contact with you for a longer period of time, she may be indicating that she likes you.

It’s normal to make eye contact with people. But, if it’s longer than usual, she’s trying to tell you something. [Read: How to tell if a woman is attracted to another woman]

15. Yet, after all this, know that there are no real, solid signs to rely upon!

Here’s the thing, all these signs don’t necessarily mean that she’s bisexual unless she’s straight up told you that she is.

A straight or lesbian woman can wear baggy clothes, support the LGBTQ community and not actually be bisexual herself. This is why the best confirmation of her sexuality would be if she told you.

What you need to know when you date a bisexual girl

Now that you know the signs of female bisexuality, you might wonder what it’s like to date one. But before you do, here are some things you need to keep in mind.

1. Bisexuality is not a phase

Being a bisexual girl is not something she is just “going through” at the moment. It’s not like she’s just experimenting. She’s really bisexual.

You wouldn’t think to ask a straight girl if she’s really straight, would you? Well, being bisexual isn’t any different than that. [Read: How to know if you’re still a try-sexual and not sure what you want]

2. She’s not going to cheat on you

Some people think that just because a bisexual girl is attracted to both genders it makes it more probably for her to cheat.

The reason a lot of people think this is because it “doubles” the number of people she’s attracted to. This has nothing to do with whether or not someone cheats – their character and morals do.

3. She’s not attracted to everyone

Another silly impression a lot of people have of bisexual girls is that she’s attracted to everyone.

But just because she’s attracted to both males and females doesn’t mean she thinks they are all attractive. Straight people aren’t attracted to all members of the opposite sex, right?

4. She might be scared to tell you she’s bisexual

Because of all these assumptions and myths about being bisexual, she might think that you will reject her if she reveals her true sexuality.

A lot of straight men or lesbian women might not like the fact that she likes both genders. So, she’s probably afraid of your reaction. [Read: List of sexualities – 15 gender orientations you need to know about]

5. There’s no “percentage” of gay and straight

Some straight men might ask her if she’s 50% straight and 50% gay. It doesn’t work that way!

It’s not like she carries a sexual pie chart around in her head. Being bisexual doesn’t require a diagram. She follows her feelings and intuition depending on the individual she may or may not be interested in.

6. She’s not more interested in threesomes because she’s bisexual

Just because a girl is bisexual doesn’t make her more willing or more likely to engage in a threesome. She might just want to be in a monogamous committed relationship.

Maybe she does want a threesome, but so do straight men and women. So, there is no real correlation between being bisexual and having threesomes. [Read: First time threesome – my sexy accidental threesome while on holiday]

7. She’s equally able to commit to same-sex and opposite-sex relationships

Sometimes lesbians have a slight fear of bisexual women because they may think that bisexuals are fickle and might leave them for a man.

But anyone can leave anyone for any reason at any time. Leaving a relationship for someone else is not dependent on their sexuality. It’s just a normal part of life.

8. She might not feel completely comfortable in either the LGBT or straight communities

Lesbians and gays might think that a bisexual girl isn’t “gay enough” for the LGBT community. And straight people might think she’s unusual for sleeping with “anyone.”

So, some bisexual girls can feel a bit isolated because they don’t fit completely into either group – regardless of the “B” in LGBT.

[Read: Girl crush – What it means to have one and the deeper meaning it hides]

No one said figuring out your sexuality was going to be easy. After looking at the signs of female bisexuality, are you? Is your crush a bisexual girl?