22 Very Obvious Signs Your Man Has a Crush on Another Woman

Is your gut telling you that something is off with your man? Do you think his eye is wandering? Here are the signs your man has a crush on another woman.

From time to time in a relationship, you may notice that your boyfriend is behaving differently. There could be a number of reasons why this may be happening, but sometimes, one explanation for his strange behavior may point to the signs your man has a crush on another woman!

Of course, there are instances when having a crush is harmless. One of those instances is when your man is crushing on a movie star or a random Instagram model. But when his eyes alight on someone who could possibly reciprocate his feelings, that’s when trouble can start to brew.

With the possibility of another woman snatching up your man, that crush can turn into a flame. Then you might end up losing your man, and who wants that?

Luckily, there are some signs that are definite giveaways that your man is getting the hots for somebody else.

Once you learn the signs your man has a crush on another woman, you can use this knowledge to your advantage, as you try to see if your man might be considering cheating on you. [Read: Why do men cheat? 43 excuses, real reasons and the best ways to prevent it]

The biggest signs your man has a crush on another woman

You definitely want to look out for these signs, as they will tell you if your guy is just good friends with a girl, or if he’s got a genuine crush on her.

1. He is giving another woman a lot of attention

This is one of the most obvious signs your man has a crush on another woman. If you frequently see him chatting to Susan, the attractive and fit neighbor, it could definitely mean that he is interested in her.

Unless there is a direct reason for your boyfriend to be chatting with the same hot female on a regular basis, the chances are that he is intentionally making the time to talk to her.

2. He doesn’t want you to see his phone

 Not wanting you to see his phone could easily mean that he has spicy material on there that he doesn’t want you to discover.

Has he been texting the attractive girl he met at the gym, has he been calling an old lover? Who knows? Definitely not you, because he won’t ever let you near his phone, and hence the justification for suspicion. [Read: Why would a guy with a girlfriend want another girl’s attention?]

3. He is overly jumpy

Perhaps he has a crush on someone, and he is nervous that you will find out. This could definitely put him on edge.

So, if he jumps like a Mexican jumping bean every time you mention something even remotely connected to his crush, he could quite possibly be hiding some emotions he has for a certain woman in his life who is not you.

4. He makes less eye contact with you

If he has feelings for someone else, he may be experiencing guilt. That guilt may be preventing him from making proper eye contact with you.

In this circumstance, he probably doesn’t want you to bore deep into his soul with your eyes and purge the information out of him. If he starts averting his eyes in the middle of a conversation, or rocking sunglasses more in your presence, it may be a further, though silly, effort to avoid eye contact. [Read: 21 secret signs your relationship is starting to go downhill]

5. You catch him checking out the same girl over and over

It may be a mutual friend that you both have, or a pretty barista, or maybe even his physical therapist.

But whatever the case, if you frequently see him checking her out, whether in person or on social media, it could definitely be more than an innocent look in her direction.

6. He seems less into you

This is definitely one of the signs that your man has a crush on another woman. It may present itself as a general feeling that he just isn’t as passionate about you as he once was.

You may not be able to pin it to any specific conversations or events, but you may feel that his romantic energy is just not coming your way as much as it used to.

This could definitely mean that his interest is going somewhere else. Side note, it may be time to bust out some scandalous outfits to get that attention coming right back in your direction! [Read: 40 secrets to make your man feel happy and incredibly lucky to date you]

7. He is overly defensive

If your boyfriend is having mood swings that resemble a male period, it could be because he is emotionally frustrated since he likes someone else. In this circumstance, not only does he have to repress his desire, but he also has to conceal it from you.

All of that emotional constipation can take its toll, and it might lead to random hissy fits.

Combine his frustration, a dash of guilt, and the tension of hiding his crush from you, and you’ve got the complete recipe for a guy who might suddenly explode over the smallest things. [Read: Is he hiding something from you? 20 signs he feels guilty for hurting you]

8. He gives slight signs of physical affection to the same girl over and over

Examples of this may include putting his hand on her back as he lets her walk through the door, or using any excuse to touch her, such as driving a point home in the conversation with a gentle touch of the arm.

If you notice that he does this more with one girl than he does with any other girl, or even with you, then it can definitely be a red flag.

Scheming hint – This may be time for you to try to get some distance between your man and this woman. Or perhaps, it may be the perfect time to set that woman up with your friend John, the handsome banker who is looking for a new girlfriend.

Setting her up with your friend can do two things: One, your guy may lose interest in her since she’s interested in someone else. And two, it might clue him in to the fact that you’re on to him. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

9. He makes revealing Freudian slips

If you suspect that your man has a crush on your friend Sarah, and he accidentally asks if you had “buns” with Sarah when you were out with her, instead of if you had “fun” with her, this can be a giveaway.

Sometimes, it is simply impossible to censor all of your speech properly. You can use this fact to gain insight. [Read: 10 things emotional cheating can do to your relationship]

10. You just have a sneaking suspicion that he is becoming more interested in someone else

Sometimes, our intuition can pick up on things that our rational brains cannot. So, if for some reason, you are suddenly starting to suspect that he is developing feelings for someone else, you could be correct.

Be careful how you approach this though, because if you have no evidence and you accuse him of being in love with someone else, this could go over poorly.

11. His behavior patterns have changed

Before you had the sneaking suspicion that your man has a crush on another woman, he was pretty predictable. He would come home from work at the same time every day. The two of you had your routine.

But if now he’s making excuses for different things like “going out with the boys,” then that could be one of the bad signs your man has a crush on another woman and is trying to hang out around her. [Read: Emotional cheating vs. friendship – the point where the line is crossed]

12. He’s vague or secretive

If he announces that he’s going for drinks with “friends” after work, but he doesn’t tell you with whom, he might be hanging out with another woman.

It’s even worse if you ask who he’s going with *or if you can come too* and he refuses to tell you or say yes.

13. You find him talking about the same woman a lot

Maybe he works with this woman named Megan. He might tell you all about her and what they do throughout the workday.

If you find that he’s talking about her a little too much, then your man might be overcompensating for his crush. It might be to throw you off and make you think he has no feelings for her… but he does.

14. Lack of communication

If you find that the two of you just don’t talk like you used to, that means his attention may be going elsewhere.

His texts could be dwindling down, or he might not just want to engage in deeper conversation like he normally does. It could be because he’s thinking about someone else. [Read: 15 signs he’s talking to another girl and using you until he hooks her]

15. It feels like he’s avoiding you

As was mentioned above, you probably have some sort of routine with him. So, if you are asking him to hang out, go out on dates, or sleep over, he might be coming up with excuse after excuse not to.

If it gets to the point where you feel like he may be trying to avoid spending too much time with you, maybe that’s because it’s one of the signs your man has a crush on another woman.

16. He gives you less attention

Whether it’s when he’s physically in your presence or not, he is giving you a lot less attention. Maybe when you’re both watching TV, he has his head on his phone. Or he just doesn’t text or call you like he used to. Maybe it’s because your man is thinking about or interacting with his crush.

17. If you ask him about it, he blows it off

If you have been suspicious for a while and decide to just come right out and directly ask him, he brushes you off like it’s no big deal.

He might even gaslight you and make you feel crazy for even thinking that he has a crush on another girl. That’s because he doesn’t want you to know the truth. [Read: Snapchat cheating – this sneaky new trend is the ultimate betrayal]

18. He avoids going a certain place with you

Let’s say you’re hanging out together on the weekend, and you suggest going to grab drinks at a certain restaurant or bar. If he seems uncomfortable with that idea, you should ask yourself why.

Maybe he knows that she goes there a lot, and he doesn’t want her to see him with you. Or maybe it’s a place they usually go, and they know the wait staff might recognize him and ask him about the other girl.

19. He starts to compare you to other women

He might suddenly start commenting on women he sees on TV and compare you to them. Or he could say things like, “Why don’t you ever wear anything like that?” or “You should try to do your hair like that girl.”

Well, you know he is thinking about other women – whether they are in the media, or even in real life. [Read: 15 gut-wrenching signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend]

20. He doesn’t get jealous anymore

When you used to go out with your friends, he would act a little jealous. He would question you before and after about who you’re going with, where you’re going, and if you talked to any guys.

If he doesn’t seem bothered or jealous before like he used to, there could be a very good reason for it. [Read: What is emotional cheating and 15 signs to recognize an affair ASAP]

21. He always seems too busy

If you find that you are initiating dates and hanging out more than usual *more than he is,* then that means he is not thinking about hanging out with you as much.

He might come up with a ton of different excuses, but they all come down to one thing… he’s too “busy” to see you. Busy doing what?

22. He’s online… a lot!

Okay, we’re not talking about just social media here, but just his phone habits. Has it changed suddenly?

Does he seem to always be active on Instagram or Facebook? Is he always active and online on Whatsapp, but it’s been a while since you received any texts from him? When you call him up all of a sudden, does it go to call waiting even late into the night? When you facetime him, does he disconnect your call and tell you he’s busy?

If he would speak all night to you over the phone, but now has to hang up in exactly 15 minutes a few days in a row, that’s strange, don’t you think?

Unless he has a very good reason for his shift in behavior, or he’s able to explain himself, you need to assume your man has a crush on another woman.

Bottom line

At times, it can be difficult to see the signs that your man has a crush on another woman. There is also a major difference between a crush, and a simple opinion that he thinks a particular woman is attractive.

After all, there are probably many men whom you think are attractive. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you have a crush on them.

A crush means that someone really, really likes another person, and could potentially be interested in pursuing and dating them.

[Read: 18 ingenious ways to catch a cheating partner red-handed and in the act right now]

With these signs your man has a crush on another woman, you can find out if your man’s eyes have been wandering. Once you’ve got your conclusion, it may be time for you to address the situation by confronting him or luring him away from his crush.