22 Signs He’s Falling in Love with You & Can’t Hold Himself Back

Is a guy in your life giving you daily confusion? Throwing mixed signals your way? Learn the signs he’s falling in love with you and gain some clarity. 

Sometimes, men can play mean mind games. Often, you come across someone who is charming and generous, but ultimately just wants to get into your pants. Then, there are those who are thoughtful and fun to be around but, unfortunately, just want to be friends. It’s hard to understand someone’s motives and feelings unless they tell you outright. But, understanding the signs he’s falling in love with you can help you to get a real handle on the situation.

For the sake of our hearts *and our sanity*, it’s best to know who among these eligible guys have the best intentions and are worth the emotional investment.

We’ve all been there – thought a guy was into you only to find out that he never wanted anything serious!

All of that heartache could have been saved by simply being able to accurately read the signs, and preferably having an honest conversation.

Who said love was easy, right?

[Read: When a man falls in love – How men fall in love and the 7 stages]

Why do guys play mind games?

Guys, if you’re reading this, we certainly don’t mean that all guys do this. And, if you do it, it might not be with any ill intention. Maybe you don’t even realize what you’re doing.

The thing is, when you’re not sure how you feel about someone or you’re scared of commitment, it’s easy to send mixed signals. All that does is confuse them and make them either run away from you or become a little clingy as they try to work out what’s going on.

It’s far simpler to just be honest. If you’re not looking for a serious relationship, just tell her. Maybe she’s not either and you can have some fun together. If you’re wanting to take things slowly, explain. Just don’t leave her hanging and confused about what’s going on. Nothing good ever comes of that.

Mind games can drive a girl crazy and it’s not going to endear her to you, put it that way. But, why do some guys resort to this?

Fear of commitment, not really knowing what they want, not being sure how to end it once it’s started, there are countless reasons. Just be open and honest, nothing bad ever comes of that. [Read: Guys who play mind games – How to recognize them and what to do about them]

Surefire signs he’s falling in love with you slowly

So,if you’re wondering if a guy friend is slowly falling in love with you, or having mixed feelings towards you, what signs should you look for? Let’s explore.

[Read: How to read mixed signals from a guy and turn it into love]

1. He’s super eager to please

A man who is head-over-heels in love with you will go out of his way to please you or impress you.

Even if he’s on his way home after a tiring day at work, he will literally go out of his way to be at your beck and call. That’s how badly he wants to make you happy.

2. He’s blowing up your phone

He talks to you on the phone at length – to the extent that your phones and ears are burning hot, but you can’t put your phone down. It’s also likely that he listens to you and replies with the best responses to your stories and rants.

He doesn’t even mind that he has an important meeting tomorrow. He’d rather talk to you than sleep. [Read: 14 signs he’s genuinely interested in being with you]

3. He has a pet name for you and doesn’t mind using it

He has a cute name that he only uses for you. It’s nothing like “babe” or “sweetie,” but something more original. Amazingly, it describes you to a T—and you love it. He also uses it regularly.

That doesn’t mean he’ll shout it across the restaurant when you go to the bathroom, but he will drop it into a conversation. [Read: How to pick the right kind of pet name based on someone’s personality]

4. He listens and remembers small details – One of the major signs he’s falling in love with you

He remembers what you said about this movie or that restaurant, and he says it back to you—verbatim—as if it’s the greatest idea he’s ever heard.

Basically, he’s paying attention and it’s one of the signs he’s falling in love with you.

5. He remembers what you wore

He remembers what you wore last New Year’s Eve, and he isn’t short on compliments to pay you about how you looked that night. Maybe he also remembers what you wore when you first met.

If you’re lucky, he might even buy you a purse to go with your little black dress. In that case, if he’s not gay, he’s definitely into you.

6. He just wants to talk to you

He makes up all these excuses to talk to you, whether on the phone, on social media, via FaceTime or text, or any other way he can possibly think of. If he’s your office mate, he may even drop by your cubicle, just to say mundane things and be close to you. [Read: 18 body language cues guys give away when they’re falling for a girl]

7. He calls to say he’s thinking of you

It’s not just a booty call. He can’t sleep, so he calls you up, just to see if you’re still awake. Him calling you at odd hours can mean that he’s thinking of you that very moment—and not that he wants to get into your pants.

He tells you he’s thinking about you? Bonus points and definitely one of the big signs he’s falling in love with you.

8. Chivalry isn’t dead when he’s around you, and that’s one of the signs he’s falling in love with you

He opens doors for you, pulls you up a chair, and acts old-school gentlemanly for you. Even in a crowd, he is the one who makes sure you are comfortable and okay. [Read: How to be a gentleman – 15 ways to win her over with your charm]

9. His face lights up when he sees you

Whenever he sees you, his face lights up like a child in a candy store. It’s so obvious that even friends—and strangers, like the barista—notice. [Read: Is he attracted to you? 16 giveaways he just can’t hide]

10. He’s omnipresent

He sees everything you do—maybe you dropped your book, and he’s immediately there to pick it up for you, or he sees you struggling to open the door, and is right by your side to give you a hand.

He sees all your little quirks and he adores every one of them. In fact, he knows you so well from just looking at you *a lot* that he can tell if you’re upset, tired, angry, or restless, just by the way you purse your lips or raise your eyebrow.

11. He buys you small, meaningful gifts

He finds a reason to give you something to brighten up your day, even if it means getting you a morning latte in time for your big presentation.

Maybe he gets you gifts for no reason; like he came back from a trip and got you a souvenir, or he just “dropped by” this store and found something he thought you’d like. He keeps this up, and he might be buying you a diamond ring soon!

12. He often offers to take you out

He offers to take you out to dinner or a movie to watch this flick he knows you love. He’ll probably find a reason to take you out, even for a walk in the park. [Read: 21 signs you’re falling in love with the guy too!]

13. He acts like Mr. Protective

He holds your hand to guide you through a crowded bar. Maybe he calls you to make sure you got home safe. He gives you his jacket so you don’t get cold.

It’s like you have your very own superhero, and you know you can count on him anytime.

14. His friends know about you

His friends take you seriously. They don’t make green jokes around you, and better yet, they don’t make jokes about you in front of you.

It’s like they have this sort of reverence when you’re with them, and it’s probably because your guy has already briefed his amigos. [Read: 25 signs your guy friend is falling for you even if he’s hiding it]

15. He’s showing one of the signs he’s falling in love with you if he’s genuninely interested in what you have to say

It doesn’t matter if you talk to him over the phone for hours, or just yak the hours away, discussing how your boss is the evilest person on earth—he listens. He pays attention. It’s like everything that comes out of your mouth is precious and interesting. [Read: 25 signs he really loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]

16. Your goodbyes are always long

You know when the conversation’s over and he seems like he just can’t bring himself to say goodbye?

Whether on the phone, through messaging, or in person, he stretches your time together as much as possible, peppering goodbyes with more versions of goodbyes. It’s certainly one of the signs he’s falling in love with you!

17. He talks about “we”

A guy who starts saying “we”instead of “I” is definitely hooked. He thinks about you whenever he thinks about himself. If someone invites him for an event, you are automatically invited. He doesn’t think about going anywhere without you.

18. He makes future plans – One of the major signs he’s falling in love with you

He makes plans with you that are 3 to 6 months into the future. This means he can see you together in the long run, and he makes sure that actually happens. For sure, that’s one of the major signs he’s falling in love with you. [Read: 14 undeniable signs he wants to spend his life with you]

19. He doesn’t mind the odd PDA

He isn’t afraid to show his affection, even just by holding hands. This gesture speaks a lot about how deeply into you this guy is.

Holding your hand while you’re out in public is him telling the world that he’s taken and you’re his. [Read: 33 traits and signs that make a guy a really good boyfriend]

20. You just know when you see the signs he’s falling in love with you

There’s something about women’s intuition that can tell you a lot about the world around you in just a split second. The same can be said for your guy. If he truly is falling in love with you, you will just know it.

If your guy matches the signs above, you’re in luck! You’ve found yourself a keeper—someone who’s so head over heels in love with you, that he’ll do anything and everything to make you happy and feel appreciated.

You are the apple of his eye, and how you handle things from here can make the difference between being a friend, a girlfriend, or a wife – it’s up to the two of you what happens next and what you both want. [Read: How to listen to your gut and give strength to your inner voice]

21. He sticks up for you

He won’t listen to anyone talking about you behind your back, or in front of your face. He’ll not only be protective, like we said before, but he’ll back you up and fight your corner. If he hears someone talking trash about you, they better be able to explain themselves!

22. He’s seriously showing signs he’s falling in love with you if there’s talk of meeting the family

Maybe you’ve already met them, but even a conversation about meeting the parents shows that he’s seriously into you. A guy doesn’t introduce you to his family unless he can see you being something longer-term. It’s just not something most guys even entertain. So, if there’s even a small conversation about this, consider it a good sign!

If you can nod along to several of these signs, you’ve got a guy who’s seriously soft on you! How do you feel about him? Hopefully, you feel the same and this is the start of a long and happy relationship.

[Read: Does he love me? 37 signs he’s past like and totally in love with you]

A guy who is falling for you will do what it takes for you to notice it. After all, he can’t help it; he’s brimming with all this affection for you. So, if you see the signs above in a guy who’s trying to woo you, it’s your turn to return the favor… and maybe let yourself fall, too.