21 Signs to Know When to Stop Texting a Guy & He Doesn’t Care As Much

When you like someone, you want to talk to them all the time. When is it too much? This is how to know when to stop texting a guy.

Texting is a great way to communicate, but it can also become simply too much. You may not be doing anything wrong, per se, but unless he’s your true love, there usually comes a time when you need to figure out how to know when to stop texting a guy.

Texting him is a great way to keep the spark going. Nowadays, it is really the only way to stay in communication with each other.

Now that’s all fine and dandy, but texting is an art. Sometimes it can kill the relationship before it even starts. It’s time you learned how to know when to stop texting a guy. [Read: How to stop texting someone when that’s all you want to do]

The art of texting a guy

Texting a guy whether you’ve met or not can be finicky. Now, you shouldn’t suppress your emotions, but there are some things you need to be aware of that make you look overeager, clingy, and desperate. You need to set realistic boundaries for yourself.

You also need to look at the signs he’s giving to see if texting him is even worth it. Sometimes when you had a good first date or even some nice flirty conversation on a dating app, you convince yourself things should work out and you deny the truth that is staring you right in the face.

Instead of letting go of a guy who doesn’t text back, is asking for nudes, or is just lacking any effort, you keep it going. You put the effort in anyway because you’ve convinced yourself you like him.

You convince yourself he is busy or shy and keep texting a guy when you really should just stop. If this sounds even the slightest bit familiar to you, keep reading so you know how to stop texting a guy. [Read: Why did he stop texting you?]

How to know when to stop texting a guy

Dating should be fun. It is those unwritten dating rules that make things complicated. They can make dating feel more like a game than an experience you should be enjoying.

If he doesn’t text back for a day, should you wait a day once he does? Should you text first or always wait for him? Is he playing hard to get or is he not interested?

Sure, you could be texting him too much because you are eager, but odds are there are signs he isn’t into you. Instead of putting effort into someone that doesn’t deserve it, learn how to know when to stop texting a guy by keeping these cues in mind. [Read: How to make him realize your worth]

1. He takes forever to reply

Honestly, babies can text faster than this guy. Girls, it’s really quite simple. If he texts you within a couple of hours *maybe he can’t text at work* and the texts are engaging, it shows he’s interested in talking to you.

But if it takes him an entire day to reply to one text and his message has nothing of value in it, stop texting him. [Read: Common texting habits that push guys away]

2. He doesn’t take the conversation anywhere

The conversation is basically him replying to you, going on and on and on about whatever it is. Maybe you find yourself asking questions to get to know him better, but he never wants to know more about you.

That is not an actual conversation. It’s just him letting you breathe for a moment before you keep the conversation alive. There was never a conversation, to begin with. [Read: The unwritten texting rules you must remember]

3. You always text him first

You never receive a morning text from him first. It’s always you sending him the first text when you want to talk to him.

If he were into you, he would be texting you first. Not necessarily all the time, but there would be a healthy back-and-forth relationship going on. But there’s not.

4. He doesn’t ask you out

You have been texting with him for days, weeks, and even months, but he never asks to hang out with you. Strange, no? It is strange. Sure maybe he is busy or he’s a weirdo catfish in his mom’s basement, but those aren’t really great excuses.

More likely, he is keeping you as an option in case one of his other girls doesn’t work out or he’s really not interested in you. Either way, it’s a shitty deal for you. You need to stop texting this guy.

5. He only texts you when he’s drunk

Maybe he does text you, but it seems to be only when he’s really drunk. Now, you may interpret this as he likes you, but he’s hiding his emotions.

But no, that’s not the reason. He’s texting you when he’s drunk because he knows you’ll hook up with him or give him some entertainment, and you’re easier than meeting someone new. [Read: 17 sordid signs you’re just a hookup and nothing more]

6. He replies with one-word answers

Ah yes, his answers are anything but overwhelming. If you scroll through your conversation, most of his replies are “yeah,” “lol,” or “k.”

This isn’t what keeps the conversation going, and he knows that. He’s trying to end the conversation and give you a strong hint that he’s not interested. Be smarter than that and take the hint.

7. He replies days later

Good thing he’s not your emergency contact person because this guy doesn’t respond quickly to your texts.

When you like someone, you give them your attention and reply as quickly as possible. If he writes to you days later, come on, you know he’s not into you.

He probably doesn’t even apologize for being busy or not replying. He acts like he just saw your text, which we both know isn’t true. Everyone has two minutes to reply to a text message. It doesn’t take two days to reply. [Read: What it means when a guy doesn’t text you back]

8. He gives you an excuse when you ask him out

You’ve asked him a couple of times if he wants to go out. Maybe he said yes, but then at the last minute, he always seems to have an emergency or something he forgot. Listen, he doesn’t have the balls to tell you that he’s not interested.

Instead, he leads you and then drops you at the last minute. Save yourself and just stop texting him. Let him come to you if he wants to or dump him. [Bolde.com: Don’t be the crazy girl who texts too much]

9. He ghosts you after he gets what he wants

Maybe you two hooked up and you felt a connection. However, he didn’t feel the same as you. Not too surprisingly, guys can fake emotions pretty easily.

For him, it was a one-night stand that was fun… for that night. But now, he sees that you’re always texting him, giving him clingy vibes, which he doesn’t want to deal with. This is when you need to back way off and ditch him. He is not boyfriend material.

10. He doesn’t say hi to you in public

He may not run and hide from you, but he definitely avoids eye contact and pretends to be on the phone or looking away when he obviously knows you’re there.

He doesn’t want to interact with you because he feels that you’ll try to contact him or ask him why he hasn’t answered. It is harder to lie to your face.

So, pretending not to see you will eliminate the chance of you talking to him. Do you want to be with a guy like that? No, you don’t. Girl, stop texting him. [Read: Is he shy or just not interested? 15 signs to know the truth]

11. He changes his number

Maybe his phone fell into the toilet at a house party, or maybe he doesn’t want you to have his number.

If he changes his number without letting you know, there’s a reason why he did it. We mean, this is pretty intense. People don’t make this move cause they’re mildly annoyed at you. He could just block you.

If he changed his number he is either highly overreacting or you’re headed into stalker status and need to stop texting him, like yesterday.

12. He doesn’t add you on social media

If he wanted to creep on your social media, he would have added you as a friend. If a guy likes you, he wants to see your photos and learn more about you. But alas, he didn’t.

He doesn’t want you liking his statues, commenting on all his photos, and creeping through his friend list. This is why your friend request has been untouched. He doesn’t want you to know about his personal life. Stop texting this guy. He is not for you.

13. He tells you to stop texting him

If he tells you to stop texting him or subtly hints that he’s not interested, it’s a pretty clear sign he wants to cut you off. Don’t take it personally.

You may intimidate him or maybe he is just a jerk. That’s not the point. The point is that you need to back off and stop writing to him because you’re not getting what you want. [Read: These signs will tell you if a guy doesn’t like you]

14. His friends know about you

If he’s not replying to you, but his friends all know about you, that’s not because he likes you. If he were into you, he would be texting you, making sure you received attention. But he’s not.

Weird how his friends all know about you, though, right? It’s not weird. They all know about you because you’re the girl that won’t leave him alone. You’re the entertainment for his group of friends. Harsh, but true.

15. You don’t feel good about yourself

If you are talking to this guy and start feeling bad about yourself, cut it out. You do not want to be texting a guy that makes you question your worth.

It doesn’t matter if you just met, went on a date, or have a long complicated history. If he makes you feel bad about yourself with his words, actions, or lack thereof, stop texting him. [Read: Signs he’s playing you, not playing hard to get]

16. You’re confused

Okay, dating and clarity do not go hand in hand, but you shouldn’t feel totally lost. When texting a guy, part of you should at least have an idea of how he feels or where it’s going.

If he is hot and cold, there is a reason. If he wanted you to know what that was he would tell you. When you ask him about it, and just feel even more confused, stop texting him. He is too complicated and not worth your thoughts.

17. You’re friends say you can do better

Ranting to your friends about this guy? If they support you and want you to give him a chance, maybe keep trying.

But if they are telling you to let him go and move on, trust them. They are looking out for your best interest and know you best. Stop texting a guy when your friends don’t like him. [Read: 18 secrets for texting a guy]

18. You know you deserve more

You know you deserve more than a guy who isn’t texting you back or is being sketchy. Even if you want something casual, you deserve happiness and clarity. If he can’t give you the bare minimum, you know you deserve better, so go get it.

19. He disrespects your time

If he cancels on you minutes or even an hour before you’re supposed to meet up, he is not respecting your time.

If you had a video call scheduled and he doesn’t show up or is more than five minutes late he doesn’t value you. Stop texting someone who can’t consider you or your time as important. [Read: Signs of disrespect to look out for]

20. He treats you like you’re dumb

He may not say you’re dumb, but by telling you he is single when he is clearly posting photos with a girlfriend, he is assuming you are dumb.

If you ask a valid question and he ignores it, he thinks you are weak and won’t stand up for yourself. You do not want to waste your time texting a guy like this.

21. Nothing is reciprocated

Whether it is your feelings, your effort, or even your time, if he isn’t reciprocating anything, stop texting him. You deserve something that is at the very least, equivalent.

[Read: Try these subtle flirting moves to bring them closer]

It’s not easy being in the dating world. There are so many unwritten rules, but if you learn how to know when to stop texting a guy, you won’t have to learn the hard way.