20 Sizzling Sex Tips & Positions for Couples with a Height Difference

Couples with a height difference can be great if she’s tiny and he’s manly. But for sexy time, there might be some issues to overcome. We’re here to help.

No one wants to be in an awkward position with their partner, especially in the bedroom. However, if you’re one of those couples with a height difference, things can really get awkward. Your bodies might be lining up in places they normally wouldn’t.

Having a big height difference with your partner can make having sex really tricky, not to mention a tad uncomfortable. You are limited in the positions that will work for you, and you have to do certain things only one at a time.

Furthermore, the bedroom should be one of the few places where you are able to be uninhibited with your bodies, but if you have a big height difference, you might find yourselves becoming too self-conscious and feeling more apprehensive than excited at the thought of sex.

The hottest tips for couples with a height difference

If your significant other is taller than you, or vice versa, try out the following sex tips to make things a little more comfortable *and enjoyable* during your romps in the sheets.

1. Invest in a wedge pillow

If you really want to enjoy more sex positions, you need to invest in a good, firm wedge pillow. There are wedge pillows specially designed for sex, but there are also regular wedge pillows that can do the trick just as well. 

What’s great about this pillow is that it is versatile and allows you or your partner to get into positions that might otherwise be very hard to pull off. The shape is ideal to provide enough support for the hips or knees, giving you or your partner an added boost or height advantage.

2. Do it wet

If the penetrator, or the man, is taller, shower sex can be frustrating—not to mention potentially dangerous.

So the best place for you to enjoy being wet and wild is in the pool or bathtub. For example, you can do a cowgirl or reverse cowgirl while sitting near the edge of the hot tub or on the steps of a pool.

If the penetrator is shorter than their partner, shower sex is possible, with the help of some safety trappings. Make sure you have a bath mat with extra grips that can provide enough traction so you will not slip.

You will also need shower bars to hold onto for support as you try out doggy style and other variants that are comfortable for you and your partner. [Read: 9 wild ways to have sex in the shower and enjoy it!]

3. Get more props

For a more pleasurable and exciting experience, you can try adding props to your sexy deeds to take your romp to the next level.

Have a go with the sex swing for some fun in the bedroom. You can even adjust this to suit your height so that the height difference between you and your partner won’t be much of a problem.

4. Experiment

Don’t let your height difference dampen your mood and affect your intimacy. You are the only person who knows your body best, and you also have a very good idea of what your partner finds pleasurable.

Many of the tips above are great for couples with a major height difference, but the secret is to find what works best for you. After all, great sex involves practice and experimentation—you only learn by doing.

5. Be open

Another way to find out what you and your partner like is by constantly talking to each other about what makes you both comfortable and what gets you off. As with any relationship, openness and communication are important. 

The same goes for the things that happen in the bedroom. Even better than being great in action is being great in communication.

By telling your partner what you like and listening to what your partner likes, you can both hit all the right angles and have a fantastic romp. [Read: 14 tips to get your partner to open up about sex]

The best sex positions for couples with a height difference

Wondering what positions work best for a couple with a height difference? Gives these easy but really good sex positions a try, and you won’t even realize there’s a height incompatibility in bed!

1. Do the doggy

Just because you have a huge height difference doesn’t mean you can’t do it the way those with more equivalent heights do.

If the taller one is the penetrator, then the smaller one could lie down and have the handy wedge pillow *or just a bunch of regular pillows* on her hips for extra elevation. 

You can even use the armrests on your couch for this while the penetrator stands up. If the penetrator is shorter, you can both make use of the stairs or simply have the receiving partner kneel on the bed with the buttocks close to the feet, while the penetrator kneels on the bed. [Read: 9 easy tips to make doggy style your new favorite sex position]

2. Spoon it

For couples with a huge height difference, especially when the penetrator is taller, spooning is a perfect position.

You can call it an equalizer position, because neither will have the weight of their partner on them, making both comfortable. For spooning, just adjust your alignments with each other—someone may need to crouch at a different angle in order to fit the other. [Read: Spooning sex position – 20 sexy moves and hot reasons to spoon in bed]

3. Hit the wall

With this position, your sex life will never hit a wall, so to speak. Wall sex is perfect for partners where the penetrator is taller and is able to lift their partner.

For extra support, you can have your partner lean against the wall while you support them with your hands on their buttocks. 

If the penetrator is shorter, you can still have a variant of wall sex, but use a chair instead. Your partner can sit on the chair while you stand in front. Your partner will be facing you, legs spread and wrapped around you as you penetrate.

4. Side 69

This position is perfect for foreplay. Although 69-ing the traditional way may be impossible, you can try another variant.

Get into a spoon position, but this time, face each other while lying on your sides. Adjust your position by crouching here and extending there, and you are guaranteed to have an amazing time.

5. Sitting cowgirl

In this position, whether you are shorter or taller than your partner, you can be sure to enjoy each other with a very close and intimate penetration. The sitting cowgirl position has the penetrator sitting down either on the edge of the bed or on the floor. 

Meanwhile, the partner will be straddling, like in a rodeo, and moving up and down or rocking forward and backward. This position is very intimate and will provide you both with intense sexual pleasure. [Read: 19 ways to own the cowgirl position and make it hotter!]

6. Lovers’ Lotus

Another good one for couples with a height difference is the lover’s lotus. This is a seated, close-up position that puts you both on roughly the same level. Because of this, you can make out, look into each other’s eyes, and do all the romantic things you want to do.

How you do it is the man sits with his feet tucked under his butt, and then the woman straddles him while holding her hands gently around his neck.

7. The snake

This is a great option for people of any height who are looking to have an orgasm, but it’s especially great for short girls whose pelvises don’t quite line up with their partner’s for where it needs to be to have sex.

So, the woman lies on her stomach with a pillow under her pelvis. This allows your hips to lift into the air. Then, the man lies over her and thrusts from behind while the woman plays with her clit.

8. Cowgirl’s helper

When a girl has shorter legs, it means she’ll have to get closer to her partner because she can’t lean back very much.

This variation on the classic cowgirl position involves the man grabbing the woman’s hips or thighs and lifting his pelvis to thrust so her legs won’t tire out. [Read: 19 Ways to own the cowgirl position and make it hotter]

In order to do this, the woman kneels on top of her partner, pushing off his chest and sliding up and down his thighs. He helps her by supporting some of the weight and grabbing her hips or thighs to meet each other’s thrusts.

9. Corkscrew

For the corkscrew position, the man can stand wherever he needs to enter the woman in exactly the right place.

In order to do it, the woman needs to be at the edge of a bed or bench. Then, she should rest on the hip and forearm of one of her sides and press her thighs together. The man stands and straddles her, entering from behind.

10. Wheelbarrow

This might seem intimidating to some people, but it’s worth giving it a try. If you want to have steamy sex and deep penetration, then this is a great position to use. Because the woman has shorter limbs, her arms will bring her body closer to the ground. [Read: 10 kinky sex positions for a wild night every day of the week]

Plus, her shorter torso and legs naturally bring the man closer to her. In order to do it, the woman should get on her hands and feet and have him pick her up by the pelvis. Then the woman should grip his waist with her thighs.

11. Mini pretzel dip

This is another deep-penetration position for couples with a height difference that you’ll get from the side-entry angle.

Having short legs means there are fewer limbs to get in the way of a good time. In order to do it, the woman should lie on her right side. The man kneels, straddling her right leg and curling her left leg around his left side.

12. Tabletop

You don’t actually have to do this one on a table, despite its name. Any surface that hits the man at crotch level will be useful.

This position puts you at the same level and allows for face-to-face action that you miss with other ones. The man should enter the woman while she’s sitting or lying at the edge of a table, counter, or bed. [Read: 10 different sex positions to spice it up and add a bang in bed]

13. The sexy crab

For this position, the woman should lie on her back and spread her legs apart with her knees bent – like she’s a happy baby.

The man should lie perpendicular to her and enter her from underneath. She can drape her legs over the side to be more comfortable. He will have access to her clitoris and nipples.

More things to know for couples with a height difference

Sex positions can help a couple with a height difference, but for real sexual compatibility and pleasure, it’s less about what you both do during penetration and more about what you do as a couple to work around the issue. 

1. Maintain your sense of humor

While you are experimenting, you will experience many hits and misses. To get through these mishaps without being discouraged or jaded requires you to maintain your sense of humor.

There will be times when trying out different sex positions will cause you both to fumble or fall. [Read: Erotic sex – 16 hot, hot hot sex positions you need to try out]

Laughing it off can take the edge and the pressure off. Keeping a positive outlook is also helpful, rather than being so focused on fitting each other that you lose all the fun in the experience.

2. There is more to you than sex

So what if sex is awkward? There is more to your relationship than sex. If penetration is awkward and uncomfortable, you can pleasure each other in other ways. Heighten the pleasure by building the excitement leading up to the so-called main event. 

In fact, there really is more fun to be had, so don’t hesitate to use your hands, mouths, toys, and other props to not only make sex more fun but also more pleasurable. After all, anything is fun in bed with your lover, right? [Read: 13 ways to make your bedroom more romantic]

These tips are helpful in making lovemaking more fun and memorable, even if a big height difference poses a problem. Just remember that these tips only serve as guides and it really is up to you and your partner to know what works for you.

[Read: 20 new things to try in bed at least once with your lover]

Even couples with a height difference can have wild sex. Be sure to keep things fun and exciting, and always keep in mind that your relationship is more than just your height. You should not only align physically but also mentally and emotionally.