20 Signs Your Friends with Benefits is Falling for You & Is in Love

Knowing the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you is so important. It gives you awareness to know if you’re both on the same page or not.

You’re not supposed to think of a future together in a friends with benefits relationship. At least, that’s what we tell ourselves. Knowing the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you helps you know if your relationship is still casual, or heading towards tricky waters.

Being in a friends with benefits setup can be complicated when feelings become involved. You’re only supposed to think about sex and fun. NO dating or catching feelings—it is purely casual. Well, even though we all say this and try to follow these rules, most of us end up breaking them.

If you’re starting to fall for your friend with benefits or are just wondering if they feel anything for you, it’s time to know the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you.

[Read: What does friends with benefits mean to a guy? Do guys actually get hooked?]

Some people aren’t cut out for an FWB relationship

Let’s be honest for a second here. It’s not easy to stay friends with someone you share a bed with. People say it’s easy, but you end up falling for the person and thinking about what it would be like to date them.

Sex is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone and the fact you’re doing it on casual grounds is really a risk. You can end up falling for one another if you’re not careful.

This is why there are people who never settle for a friends with benefits relationship their whole lives, while others are okay with it.

Frankly, it takes a lot of courage and willpower not to fall for someone you’re occasionally sleeping with. [Read: Does being friends with benefits really work out?]

Why is it important to know the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you?

If you know the signs, then you have absolute awareness if it isn’t just sex for them. This is especially crucial if you’re starting to develop feelings for them and you want to know if they feel the same way. While this relationship starts completely casual, it can turn into a real relationship.

On the contrary, if you and your friends with benefits aren’t on the same page, knowing the signs can give you everything you need to stop your relationship.

If one of you isn’t willing to have a real relationship with the other, you can choose to end your friends with benefits setup before things get complicated or it leads to heartbreak. [Read: How does being best friends with benefits really work out?]

Signs you’re more than friends with benefits

This doesn’t happen in all friends with benefits relationships, but with some, there’s this point where you’re thinking maybe this casual hook-up can turn into something more. If you’re both falling for each other, why not take the relationship further?

By knowing the signs, you have the assurance to confess your feelings or suggest making your relationship a dating one instead of a casual one. If you’re thinking there’s more to the relationship than just casual sex, put the pieces of the puzzle together. [Read: 25 friends with benefits rules to remember if you just want to stay friends]

In this feature, we’ll be discussing 20 signs your friends with benefits is falling for you.

1. You feel it

You have this gut feeling that there are mutual feelings floating around, and this is easily one of the first signs your friends with benefits is falling for you. If you have a strong feeling that they have feelings for you, then most of the time, your gut could be right.

This doesn’t mean they’re going to want something serious with you, but it does confirm that what you were feeling was right. They like you. [Read: How to know if it’s true love? Splitting the casual from the serious]

2. You’re all over each other

When you’re around them, you both can’t get enough of each other. There’s such a thing as boundaries in a friends with benefits relationship because otherwise, you wouldn’t stay casual for long.

However, if you’re all over each other to the point where you cross each other’s personal space, they might have feelings for you. If there’s that much chemistry, maybe you should take a closer look into it. [Read: Rules to follow to keep a casual relationship casual]

3. You both know about each other’s dating past

What’s an important rule of friends with benefits relationships? Not to talk about yourself too much. You don’t want to develop an emotional connection. However, if you know one another’s dating past, exes, breakups, and more intimate details, then you might want to re-think their feelings for you.

If this was strictly a casual setup, you shouldn’t know those things. Especially if you know the significant details of their dating past like how many people they dated and what lead to those breakups, it’s no longer a casual relationship.

4. You spend your free time together

This is one of the most obvious signs your friends with benefits is falling for you. If your relationship is so casual, then why are you spending time together outside the bedroom? It shouldn’t work that way.

Time is a very valuable thing, so if you’re using this to spend time with your friends with benefits, maybe the dynamics of your relationship has changed. Maybe they’re starting to fall for you, and the same could go for you. [Read: How to get over a friend with benefits without catching feelings]

5. You have those moments

Oh, you know what we’re talking about. The moments where it’s quiet and you’re staring into each other’s eyes, both wanting to say something.

Whether it’s after sex or sometime during the day, you end up staring deeply at each other before you even realize what you’re doing. Those silences are filled with hidden emotions waiting to spill out.

6. You travel together

Friends with benefits don’t travel at all. No excuses. Even if the world was ending, there’s no way you should be traveling together on casual grounds.

If you’re traveling around the world and hook up with each other, then you need to ask yourself if this isn’t a relationship. And if it’s not, why not? [Read: How traveling is a great test of compatibility]

7. You miss each other when apart

As another one of the obvious signs your friends with benefits is falling for you, there’s no way you should miss one another.

When you miss each other, it’s a reflection of the feelings you’re clearly suppressing! You really can’t miss someone without feeling anything for them – emotions don’t work that way.

8. Sex isn’t always on the menu

Okay, this is definitely a huge one! The entire basis of a friends with benefits relationship is sex. If you’re not having sex whenever you meet up, what the hell are you doing?

If you’re hanging out and not having sex, you have feelings for each other. Or you’re lonely. All the same, it’s almost always the first reason. [Read: 18 signs a guy is emotionally attached to you and is ready to commit]

9. You have each other’s back

Emotional support? That’s not under the rules of any friends with benefits relationship! Friends with benefits is based on having sex with people you want to bang. Nothing more.

If you’re hanging out and supporting each other emotionally, this is one of the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you, especially when you’re doing favors and listening to each other’s rants.

10. You stopped sleeping with other people

We’ll say this one more time – you’re not exclusively dating with a friends with benefits relationship. If you stopped sleeping with other people, why don’t you just see each other for real this time? Why not make it into a relationship?

This is such an obvious sign that they clearly have feelings for you because otherwise, they’d still sleep with other people and the same goes for you. [Read: NSA relationship guide – 15 rules you have to follow]

11. You know their friends

We all know this isn’t casual if you meet friends. There’s literally no reason why you would bring your friends with benefits to any event where your friends or family would be.

This kind of situation is only present when you’re dating them, which you aren’t *unless you changed your mind?*.

12. You date other people, but it’s meh

Even if you’re dating other people, you’re not as invested or interested as you’re with one another. You dismiss the people you’re dating and you eventually end up disinterested, even when nothing’s wrong with them.

When you’re on the date, you’re thinking about your special friend with benefits and what you could be doing together. That right there is a concrete sign! [Read: How to get over a friend with benefits without catching feelings]

13. They do small things for you

Again, friends with benefits never do favors for you unless it’s a sexual favor. If you come over and they have your favorite snacks stocked in the fridge or will let you pick out the movie – then you already know what we’re gonna say.

This is not the behavior of someone who wants a casual relationship. It might be small and minor, but it’s still a big deal.

14. You’re jealous

Whoops, friends with benefits shouldn’t get jealous, ever! One of the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you is when they get jealous when you’re talking to another person or maybe an ex.

Or, it could also be the other way around – you could be jealous of someone they’re talking to. [Read: Tips to make the “define your relationship” talk easy]

15. They hint at taking it forward

There’s no getting more obvious than this. When you’re talking, they low-key suggest you’re great together. These smalls comments are hinting at something much bigger.

They’re suggesting to take the relationship forward and try dating! [Read: Important rules to remember in a friends with benefits relationship]

16. They call whenever

Boundaries are something you should have in a normal friends with benefits setup. If they call you whenever they please and you happily answer their calls, they have feelings for you!

Maybe they’re just bored or they just want someone to talk to, but these aren’t things you do in a casual relationship. The fact that they called first implies underlying emotions.

17. They put your needs first in sex

One of the concrete signs your friends with benefits is falling for you is when the sex becomes more intimate and real. It’s no longer about satisfying their needs above your own.

So maybe they’re asking if you’re comfortable or they let you finish first where they’ve never done that before. It could be because they’re starting to develop feelings for you! [Read: 34 passionate signs you’re not having sex but making love to each other]

18. They’re more careful around you

It’s not necessarily walking on eggshells around you, but more of putting their best forward. They act the way anyone would around their crush *which is you*, and they’re more anxious and nervous than usual.

They’re also more concerned about pleasing you and making you happy in any way they can. [Read: Does he care about me? 15 subtle things that prove he really does]

19. They share personal details more

Even when you’re not asking, if they’re sharing personal details about their feelings, this isn’t a casual relationship any longer. They want you to get to know them outside of sex so whether that’s talking about how their weekend went, their favorite movies, or something in their past, they don’t hesitate in letting you know.

Again, a friends with benefits relationship should be purely casual, so sharing personal details is another one of the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you.

20. They initiate a hangout outside the bedroom

Why else would they want to hang out with you when your current setup is completely fine? Because of their feelings for you, of course!

If they’re always subtly getting you to hang out after sex or over the weekend, start wondering about their intentions for you. Frankly, it’s no longer a behavior for a casual relationship. If you have feelings for them too, this is a good thing!

[Read: How to make him want a relationship after being his FWB]

So, what are the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you?

More than their words, watch closely for their body language and behavior. If your friends with benefits is starting to care more about your wellbeing or getting personal with you, they might be falling for you! The question is, do you feel the same way?

[Read: What is lust? The typical signs and the best ways to turn it into love]

Are you seeing the signs your friends with benefits is falling for you? If the answer is yes, it’s time to decide whether you’re willing to take the relationship a step forward.