15 Signs He’s Seeing Someone Else & You Think He’s Dating Just You

You’ve been casually dating a guy and things have been going well. Then you noticed a slight change. These are the signs he’s seeing someone else.

If you agreed to be exclusive while dating each other, that means there shouldn’t be anyone else in the relationship. But, some people don’t stay true to their word and will wander off, finding new people to date. There’s not much you can do. The only thing you can focus on is protecting yourself and being aware of the signs he’s seeing someone else.

If you’re noticing these signs, then it’s time to leave. He’s not the only one out there, even though it may feel like it. If anything, this shows you he doesn’t stay true to his word or lets you go when he loses interest. You don’t need that. You’re not a second option.

15  signs he’s seeing someone else and isn’t loyal to you

When I was single, back in the day *oh how long ago that was!*, I would go on casual dates, and see if there was a connection with a guy. Dating is the way to meet people you’re interested in and see if something will develop.

[Read: How to know for sure if you can handle casual dating]

When it comes to casual dating, people are seeing other people, trying to decide which partner would be better. Or not even trying to decide who to choose, they’ll just date everyone at the same time.

Unless you’ve made it clear you’re openly dating other people, it can sting to find out you’re just another person on their long list of dates.

#1 You just feel it. I’m a big advocate for intuition. Sometimes, you can’t really pinpoint the signs of what he’s doing. Deep down, you know he’s seeing other women. You feel it. And if you feel the change, then this is your body telling you something isn’t right. If that’s the case, those feelings aren’t going to go away. [Read: How to ask a guy if he’s seeing someone else minus the awkwardness]

#2 He still has his dating profile up. Well, this is awkward. When you’re in a relationship with someone, you take down your dating profile. It’s not a hard move to make when you have feelings for the person you’re with. But for him, he’s not rushing to delete any of his profiles. On top of it, he’s active on his dating profiles. Oh, so he just accidentally opens them a couple of times a day? Come on. Boy, bye.

#3 You only chill on the weekends. Some people have very busy weekday schedules, but come on, this guy can’t spare an hour on a Tuesday for you? Look at your relationship and the time you spend together. Are you only hanging out on the weekends? Or weeknights? If so, he may be planning this as a way to see you and still be open to other women. [Read: 10 guys to stop dating if you want real love]

#4 Don’t think about going near his phone. If he has nothing to hide, he wouldn’t freak out every time you come within ten feet of his phone. When he texts around you, his phone is tilted away from you, making sure you don’t see what he’s doing. This is just plain shady and one of those clear signs he’s seeing someone else or is still playing the field. If he has to leave the room to take a phone call, you know something is up.

#5 He’s not into labels. Ah, right. No one is into labels until they’re with someone they really like, and all of a sudden, it’s like, “What are we? Let’s define this relationship.” What’s wrong with labeling the relationship? Nothing is wrong. A person who doesn’t want to label the relationship doesn’t want anything serious. In that case, focus on your needs and decide if that’s what you want. [Read: He’s not ready for a relationship but he likes me? What to do next]

#6 It’s mostly physical. When you two hang out, is it usually in the bedroom? Netflix and chill? It’s easy to fall for someone, but take a step back and really look at the relationship. If it’s mostly physical, without any deep conversation, it doesn’t sound like he’s invested in the relationship the same way you are. This is by far one of the most obvious signs he’s seeing someone else, or has every intention to start dating others very soon.

#7 Everything is last minute. When it comes to making plans, he will never confirm with you until the very last minute. Once, okay. Twice, fine. But if this is routine, then it’s clear you’re not a priority. Instead, he’s using you as a last resort to his long list of things he would rather do first. How do I put this nicely? He’s not the one. [Read: The guy decoding guide to really tell what a guy wants from you]

#8 There’s no talk about the future. You have been seeing each other for a little bit, and it’s normal for couples to want to plan things for the future. It doesn’t have to mean the far future; it could just be a next weekend getaway. But he doesn’t talk about the future at all. When you bring it up, it’s like you nail a spike through his heart. [Read: 18 clear signs to split casual dates from real love]

#9 You’re not on his social media. It’s normal for people to add their dates or partners on Facebook or Instagram, but this guy is keeping you way off his social media. It’s not that he’s not active on it, he is. But he doesn’t want you to see what he’s doing, which isn’t a great sign. 

#10 You didn’t talk about exclusivity. When you started seeing each other, it was purely casual. And though you’ve developed feelings and feel the relationship has gone a different direction, are you sure he’s on the same page? It’s an awkward conversation to have, but if you aren’t communicating your feelings to him, he may not know what’s going on. [Read: How to get a guy to stop dating other girls and get exclusive with you]

#11 You’ve never met his friends. Usually, when we like someone, we show them to our friends to get the nod of approval. But you’ve never met his friends. Maybe one of them, but that’s about it. He doesn’t take you out with them; you don’t go as his date to someone’s birthday – nothing. And that’s a clear sign that he doesn’t see you as something more.

#12 You see him flirting with other women. Some people are naturally flirtatious; I get it. But I think everyone has an ounce of self-control to not flirt in front of their partners. Come on! We’re not ten-years-old. If he’s flirting with another woman in front of you, then this basically says it all. He has no respect for you or how you feel. [Read: 16 signs you’re the rebound girl he’s using to get over his ex]

#13 He disappears. You’ll have a nice date with him, and then he’ll go radio silent for a week. Just when you think it’s over, he pops back up again, and you go on another date. And this happens again… and again. He’s not sick. He’s alive and well. If he’s not texting you, then it’s clear he’s either not that into you or is one of those signs he’s seeing someone else.

#14 You’ve seen him out with someone else. That’s probably not his sister. Okay, it’s not unusual for people to have friends of the opposite sex. So, don’t jump so fast to conclusions. But if he’s kissing her, touching her sexually, well, then you can figure out what’s going on. They’re not friends. [Read: Casual vs serious: What’s your current dating speed?]

#15 He changed how he contacted you. People develop a pattern of how and when they text. It happens pretty quickly, and if one thing changes in the pattern, it’s easy to spot. Maybe he doesn’t wish you good morning anymore or doesn’t text you every day like he used to. Something has changed, and he’s become more distant.

[Read: Here’s what you need to know about what casual dating is for a guy]

This is tricky. The only way to really find out is if you ask him. So, look at the signs he’s seeing someone else, and if you’re noticing a couple of them, then it’s time to talk to him about it.