15 Flirting Signs to Instantly Know if Someone is Flirting With You

It’s not easy to pick apart the flirting signs between a guy and a girl. But if you keep an eye on these signs of flirting, you’ll never go wrong!

Flirting comes naturally to all of us. When you like someone, the first thing that comes to mind is to flirt with them. It’s important to know the flirting signs, especially when you really like someone.

You might even be unintentionally doing it without being aware of your own actions. You may think you know nothing about flirting, but when you meet someone you like, you’d instinctively start to behave differently and flirt with them even if you don’t realize it.

Flirting isn’t just as simple as subtly touching them or as bold as saying something seductive. You can flirt by making someone laugh or even just by staring at someone for a prolonged period. It might not be as direct, but it’s still counted as flirting. 

Perhaps, you felt more aware of your own body, or you found yourself smiling so much your jaws hurt. These are all obvious flirting signs that we give away, even if we’re trying to be discreet. Unlike what we see in movies, flirting isn’t always obvious to the naked eye.

[Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation to see flirting in action]

Why do people need to flirt?

You flirt when you like someone or when you want someone in particular to notice you. It’s how you get their attention in a very subtle manner *especially when you have a huge crush on your friend*.

When you flirt, it’s the first step to taking action for your feelings rather than doing the hard part – confessing.

Flirting feels natural and easy, which is why most of us don’t even know that we’re already doing it.

For instance, you’re flirting with someone to let them know in a subtle manner that you’re interested in being more than friends with the hopes that they feel the same way. After all, actions speak louder than words, right?

Even when you do something to make your crush laugh or make plans with them to hang out, this already counts as flirting.

You don’t have to be alarmed that you’re being too obvious – everyone flirts with the people they’re attracted to. In fact, without flirting, people wouldn’t know who likes them and who doesn’t. [Read: How to flirt with a friend – 18 ways to tease them without being weird]

Obvious flirting signs that count more than the others

If you’re crushing hard on someone, it’s important to remember the flirting signs to know if they like you back. When someone’s flirting with you, it’s obvious they either like you or want to potentially get together with you. Without flirting, there’s no build-up of chemistry with them.

As discreet as they attempt to be, if they like talking to you, there’s a good chance they will flirt. If you want to let your crush know you exist and are interested in them, flirting is definitely a great place to start.

Whether it’s someone you’ve been eyeing at the bar or even your best friend, using your flirting skills to the test is the best way to grab their attention. In this feature, we’ll be listing down the most obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl you should know about.

[Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]

1. A lot of touching

Touching each other a lot mid-conversation is one of the sure flirting signs, especially if the touches are unnecessary. This is why when someone is touching you more than usual, they’re either comfortable with you or flirting with you.

Most of the time, it’s the latter that’s applicable.

Someone won’t just cross the touch barrier unless they’re having a very hard time holding themselves back from physical contact. If your cute friend is finding excuses to touch you now and then, it’s a sure flirting sign.

You should also pay attention if they’re the type to often touch the people they talk to. If not, then you can be really sure that it’s a flirting sign and that they find you irresistible! [Read: How to flirt by touch without making it obvious at all]

2. Entering into the personal zone

If someone is trying to get close to you every way they can, it might be a flirting sign. If your friend tries to come really close to you to whisper something that doesn’t need to be hushed or if their hands reach out towards you often, it’s obvious they want to get close to you, fast!

Being close to someone, even when it’s unnecessary, means they’re trying to get closer to you physically. [Read: 20 signs she’s flirting with you even if she’s trying to be very subtle]

In the animal kingdom, mating season always calls for exaggerated displays of feathers and strength. In the human world, mating and dating potentials try to show off their best sides too. [Read: What is peacocking and why men instinctively do it]

Girls raise their chests or try to get a guy to notice their attractive features, while guys try to charm a girl by smooth talking her or showing off his manliness. [Read: 25 things all guys find incredibly sexy and attractive about a girl when they see her]

4. Their eyes sparkle

One of the biggest flirting signs you can notice in a flirty conversation is the widening of the eyes. The eyes are the window to the soul for a reason, so if you notice their wide eyes sparkling attentively whenever they talk to you or even about you, they’re flirting with you.

Research has shown that attraction causes your pupils to dilate. You might find their eyes filled with life and emotion whenever you’re talking to them. [Read: Eye f*cking and the subtle art of making them desire you]

5. Constant smiling and giggling

If your date can’t help but continuously flash a big grin while talking to you, there’s definitely a flirty feeling in the air. When you’re attracted to someone, you’d do anything in your capabilities to make them smile. And you’d have a hard time holding that grin back as well.

You may not be very funny, but if the person you’re talking to beams, blushes, and laughs while talking to you, they’re probably flirting with you!

6. Avoiding all external distractions quickly

If this guy or girl you’re talking to receives a call when you’re casually talking to them, do they excuse themselves for a while, or do they try to end the phone call immediately? One of the flirting signs you’ll see is when their complete and utter attention is on you. This means they don’t even bother checking their phone, and all they want to focus on is you.

Even when they receive a notification or a phone call, they dismiss it entirely. If this isn’t an indicator of flirting, why else are they giving you their undivided attention? Anyone who’s trying to get your attention and flirt with you would always try to end any distraction as quickly as they possibly can. [Read: How to be more playful and flirty and open up when you meet someone]

7. Checking you out

Does this person look you up and down or do their eyes wander over your body, especially when they think you’re not looking? When someone’s checking you out and staring at you for a prolonged period, this is a huge flirting sign!

Maybe they’re checking out your body or that outfit you’re wearing today. Anyone who flirts with you would definitely want to take a good look at someone they’re sexually attracted to. So if you want the flirting to continue, make sure you give enough time for your cute friend to take a good, long look at you! [Read: What turns a girl on sexually about a guy?]

8. Constantly blushing

Just like smiling and laughing, blushing is something that comes involuntarily in a flirty conversation. Before you say anything else, nobody looks that red when you compliment them or say something nice. It’s not because of the sun – they’re blushing because of you!

This means you’ve definitely made quite the impression on them. When you notice them blushing, don’t hesitate to send a compliment their way. They’d definitely appreciate that.

9. Showing off the single tag

If someone’s trying to flirt with you in the hope of dating you, they’d try their best to let you know that they’re not dating anyone.

This is one of the very obvious flirting signs, really, why would they go out of their way to say they’re single? They’re making a point – especially to you – that they’re single and ready to date. [Read: Single and ready to mingle – How to let the world know you’re ready]

10. Veers the conversation to date plans

If your friend wants to know if both of you have any hobbies or weekend habits in common, it’s a definite flirting sign. Maybe they keep talking about that fancy new bar that seems like a good hang-out place or a good vacation spot. While they could be casually talking about plans they’re excited about, observe if the plans are specific to you.

They could try to know your favorite movies or favorite destination. Whatever it is, they’re doing their best to make date plans with you subtly. [Read: How guys flirt – 15 subtle things guys do to impress a girl]

11. Compliments and exaggerated expressions

Everyone loves compliments, right? It always feels good to hear several compliments your way, especially the genuine ones. When someone goes out of their way to give you compliments regularly, this could be one of the flirting signs you should watch out for.

They’re not just being friendly, but they’re trying to actively flirt with you and let you know you catch their fancy! Maybe they tell you that you have a gorgeous smile or that you smell great. These compliments aren’t often empty-handed. [Read: How girls flirt – 15 signs she’s being way more than just nice]

12. They get annoyed if someone interrupts

Nobody in their right mind would get offended if someone interrupts their conversation with you, unless they like you or have feelings for you.

Does this friend you’re talking to get offended or do they behave rudely with another person if they cut in to join the conversation? Whenever someone interrupts mid-conversation, it seems they’re always annoyed or frustrated.

13. Guys acts dominant; Girls acts coy

Both, men and women, have different flirting signs you should be aware of. The guy would try to behave more manly or protective, while the girl would start to behave in a very demure and coy manner. When you notice either of these mannerisms of someone you know, they could be flirting with you.

If you feel like this friend talks to everyone else in a particular way and becomes very affectionate, or protective, around you, that’s a good flirting sign to watch out for. [Read: 20 subconscious signs of attraction that show up between two people when they like each other]

14. Focusing their attention on you

Similar to one of the points mentioned above, someone flirting with you won’t be distracted easily. This also means that their undivided attention is on you. They actively listen to your stories *even the most boring ones* and they accidentally bump into your shoulder or touch your face.

When they look at you, it’s like you’re the only person in the room and nobody else exists. If this friend is completely attentive to you and your needs and nothing else, even if there are several others around, there’s definitely something brewing in the air. [Read: Signs both of you are more than friends]

15. Excited to be with you

When they’re with you, there’s a certain anticipation and excitement that’s clearly in the air. You can’t pinpoint why, but they’re very excited to be around you, even when both of you are doing nothing out of the ordinary. One of the biggest flirting signs is the excitement in the air.

When others see you, they just assume you’re a couple already because of how joyful and happy you are together. If this friend always tries to prolong the conversation or doesn’t want the conversation to end with you, it’s a definite flirting sign.

[Read: How to accidentally kiss a friend you like]

So, what do you do with these flirting signs?

When you confirm that someone is really flirting with you, it’s up to you to decide whether to flirt back and take a chance on that person.

It doesn’t have to imply anything serious, but can be the start of a beautiful connection with them. You can use these flirting signs to your advantage and also confirm if your crush does like you back.

[Read: How to ask someone if they like you without embarrassing yourself or them]

These signs of flirting come involuntarily between two people who are attracted to each other. Flirting can be so subtle that you miss out on the obvious signs entirely, which is why you need to remember these flirting signs every time you’re in a conversation with someone you like.