14 Easy-To-Recognize Signs Your Male Friend Has Feelings for You

When it comes to men and women being friends, it’s not black and white. If you see signs your male friend has feelings for you, it can be complicated.

Male and female friendship can be tricky. On the one hand, I have a number of male friends, and we get along just fine. It’s not always easy to see the signs your male friend has feelings for you, but when you do, it doesn’t really matter. Okay, that’s a lie. I have had the feeling of one or two of them liked me, but we either talked about it or slowly created distance between each other.

One of my friends who told me he liked me, took a break from our friendship until he felt he could re-enter the friendship whole-hardheartedly. We’re still friends, but we don’t talk as much as we used to. It’s usually what happens after two friends make a decision on the friendship.

The biggest signs your male friend has feelings for you

You could be really good friends with this guy, and not have a single romantic thought about him. But, you don’t know if he’s sharing those same thoughts. Relationships are complex, and it’s not so black and white.

[Read: Solid signs he’s pretending not to like you but he does]

We can grow out of those feelings or immerse deeper into those feelings. If you’re reading this, the odds are you feel something is a bit off with your relationship. Maybe you were buddies before, but you’ve felt a slight shift in his behavior. It could be for various reasons, but a common reason would be your male friend has feelings for you.

But, before we jump the gun, let’s find out what’s really going on. Are you just friends? Or do you see signs your male friend has feelings for you? [Read: How to know if a friend likes you romantically even if he’s hiding it]

#1 You feel it. I’m a big fan of following my gut instinct, and if you feel something has changed in your relationship, it probably has. When it comes to someone’s emotions, follow your gut instinct. If you have something inside of you saying, “he totally likes me,” well, then he probably likes you. Of course, the only way you can find out is if you talk to him about it. [Read: How to tell if someone likes you without having to ask them]

#2 He’s always texting you. No guy is going to waste their time constantly texting a woman they’re not interested in. Yes, good male friends will text you, but you can go a day or two without contact, and it’s not a big deal. But he makes sure you are in frequent contact throughout the day and never misses one.

#3 He’s more touchy. When we have feelings for someone, we try our hardest to get physically closer to them. I’m not talking about aggressive and inappropriate touching; it’s more playful and subtle. He’ll brush your hair out of your face, hug you, or stroke your hand. These are very small acts but show he’s physically into you. [Read: 10 clearly noticeable signs of body language attraction]

#4 He listens to you. But, actually listens to you. He’s not on his phone, mumbling, “yeah,” or “oh, cool” when you’re talking. Instead, when there’s something you want to share, he really listens to what you have to say. This doesn’t mean he’s in love with you, but it does show his level of respect for you. And that really matters when you’re trying to see how someone feels about you.

#5 He’s interested in knowing the details. Most guys aren’t going to invest their time getting to really know who you are. It’s really only close friends who go that extra mile to know more about you, and that’s why they’re your close friends. But to get to that level, you will have needed to open up to each other. When you open up, it creates a strong bond.

#6 He keeps his love life on the down-low. Shockingly, you don’t really know what’s going on in his love life. Wait, does he even has a love life? He doesn’t really share information with you about that, and if he does, the relationship ends before it even begins. If he’s not talking openly about other women, there may be a good reason why *cough* *cough*. [Read: 17 signs he likes you as more than a friend and wants to ask you out]

#7 He’s always there for you. If you’re sick, he comes by with home-cooked soup. When you’re sad, he’s right there with a tub of ice cream and your favorite movie. I mean, the guy is treating you as his girlfriend, and if he’s doing these things, you know he has feelings for you. If he was just a good friend, sure, he’d be there for you, but not so intensely.

#8 It’s just you and him on his social media. Go onto his social media, and tell me what you see? Are you basically the only woman on his profile? Unless he doesn’t know any other women, there’s a good reason why you’re the only one in any photograph. If you’re plastered all over his social media, it’s one of those pretty strong signs your male friend has feelings for you.

#9 He treats you differently than his other female friends. You’ve hung out with him and his other female friends, but things are a bit different. He treats his other female friends differently than you. He’s not trying to get physically closer to them, he doesn’t flirt with them, or spend his free time with them. But, he is doing all those things with you. [Read: How to handle sexual tension between friends like a platonic pro]

#10 He gets jealous. When you’re talking to a potential date, he gets jealous. Sure, he tries to hide it, but you can see in his eyes that he’s not a fan of you talking to other men. And when you tell him about it, he’ll either go quiet or make negative comments about the guy you were talking to.

#11 He’s heavy into eye contact. When we’re talking to people, eye contact is normal. But you know there are different forms of eye contact. The eyes can tell you a lot. If he’s always looking at you, staring and gazing into your eyes lovingly, well, it looks like there’s something more going on then just platonic friendship. 

#12 He goes out of his way for you. Our friends will help us when we’re in a pickle, but there are limits as to what they can do for us. But with him, it looks like there’s nothing he can’t do. Whenever you need him, he’s there without a blink of an eye. There’s no flakiness when it comes to his loyalty to you. 

#13 He’s all over your social media. Whatever story you post on Instagram or on Facebook, he’s right there, leaving a comment or like. A comment here and there isn’t a bad thing, but he’s literally all over your social media. People are starting to wonder whether or not you two are dating. [Read: 15 signs your guy friend is totally crushing on you] 

#14 The truth comes out when he’s drunk. The truth always comes out after a couple of drinks. It’s a gift and a curse. When he drinks and is sending you flirty text messages or making comments about you and him, well, then this is a pretty decent hint he likes you. You don’t send texts to someone you don’t like when you’re drunk.

[Read: The best way to tell if you guy friend likes you]

After looking at the signs your male friend has feelings for you, what do you think? Do you think he holds a torch for you? If so, time to do something about it.