13 Warning Signs in a Relationship that Spell Nothing But Trouble

You met someone, and you already hear the wedding bells. But wait, are you sure this is the one? It’s time to see the warning signs in a relationship.

You met someone, and there was a connection. Then, you decided to start a relationship. It’s basically the formula everyone follows. After some time, you’re pretty sure this person is the one for you, but there’s this little voice in the back of your head telling you to watch for the warning signs in a relationship.

Why would your instinct be telling you something different? You know you love your partner and want to be with them. But maybe you need to do a second-take and look a little closer at what your gut is trying to tell you because it may be right.

No one wants to hear that their relationship isn’t healthy and is doomed to fail. Honestly, that would break most of our hearts. We all want our relationships to work out at the end of the day. But not all relationships are meant to last. I know it’s not easy to hear, but it’s something you need to remember.

[Read: The signs your relationship won’t last… at least not happily]

13 warning signs in a relationship that give away a bad relationship

There’s no point staying in a possibly unhealthy relationship because, eventually, it’ll break you. So, it’s time to learn the warning signs in a relationship, so you can avoid going down a dangerous road.

Remember, not all relationships are healthy ones.

#1 There were deal breakers: you just ignored them. When you went on the first and second date, you saw the red flags. You saw them, and you even talked about them with your friends. But yet, you chose to push them to the side and continue the relationship. You need to go back to those red flags and rethink things. [Read: 14 first date red flags that speak a lot more than your date says]

#2 You two don’t share the same values. When it comes to money, religion, and family, you are on completely different wavelengths. If you want your relationship to be long-term, it’s important to have your core values lined up. If not, the relationship won’t last.

#3 You aren’t excited to come home. After work, you head home to your partner, but it’s more like you need to drag yourself home. If you don’t want to go home because your partner will be there, this is a huge sign that something isn’t right. [Read: These 11 things are what really holds healthy relationships together]

#4 You blame each other for everything. Where is the personal responsibility? In your relationship, instead of taking responsibility for your actions, you point fingers at each other and shift the blame. This will only get worse with time and eventually will lead to a blowup. Communication and growing up are essential.

#5 You can’t remember any positive memories. When you think about your relationship, you don’t have many positive memories flooding into your head. This isn’t a good sign. If the only thing popping into your head are the fights and breakups you went through, then why are you still together?

#6 You’re not sexually compatible. Sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship, but it’s up there. A big warning sign in a relationship is sexual compatibility. If you’re not attracted to your partner or have different sexual preferences, this will be a long-term problem. Yes, you can work it out, but it’ll take a lot of work and communication. [Read: Sexually incompatible? The unlucky 13 signs of bad sex]

#7 Disagreements turn into huge fights. It’s normal for people to disagree on things, but it never stops there with you and your partner. A small disagreement can easily turn into a massive blowout with yelling, name-calling, and screaming. What? How did that happen? Sounds like you have some serious communication issues.

#8 You can’t rely on them. When something happens, and you need a helping hand, you don’t turn to your partner. Instead, they’re the third, fourth, or fifth person on your list. Your partner should be someone you turn to no matter what, someone who can support you. [Read: Do emotional affairs ever stop? A guide to break the connection]

#9 You keep secrets from each other. Oh, you and I both know this isn’t a good sign. Your partner is supposed to be someone you can say anything to. But if you’re keeping things from them, this isn’t going to end well. Yes, you can have privacy, but hiding things from them is different.

#10 There’s no trust. You don’t trust your partner, and they don’t trust you. So where does this leave you? It doesn’t sound like you’re in a relationship. If you want a long-term relationship, trust is key. If you’re constantly wondering if they cheated on you or not, well, ask yourself if this relationship is for you.

#11 There’s addiction. If one of you is dealing with addiction, it can be a serious issue. This isn’t to say former addicts cannot be in relationships; they can. However, if you’re currently in addiction, this can weigh down your partner.

#12 You can’t talk about uncomfortable things. Listen, no one likes to have uncomfortable conversations, but sometimes you should. If you and your partner can’t talk about uncomfortable subjects, this is a red flag. They’re the person you should talk to about uncomfortable topics. [Read: How to tell how your partner feels and learn to read their mind]

#13 You don’t know your partner’s positive qualities. If someone asked you to list the good things about your partner, you’d have a hard time doing so. But that shouldn’t be the case if you’re in a healthy relationship. It looks like you’ve stopped seeing the good in them.

[Read: The biggest telltale signs a relationship is doomed!]

Just because you met someone who you think you connect with doesn’t mean the relationship is going to be a healthy one. Watch for these warning signs in a relationship and act accordingly.