12 Signs He’s Losing Interest in the Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationships are a challenge and not everyone can make it work. Here are the signs he’s losing interest in the long distance relationship.

Long distance relationships can only work if both people are into it. If not, it’s just going to be you investing all your time and energy into a relationship that isn’t going to last. And that’s what hurts. So, read on to learn the signs he’s losing interest in the long distance relationship. Protect your heart.

How to tell the signs he’s losing interest in the long distance relationship

Everyone tells you that long distance relationships are a bad idea, but I have to disagree. My relationship, in the beginning, was long distance, and it’s worked out for the better. Is it easy? Of course, not. But I can’t say that it’s a bad idea. As long as you both have a goal to communicate, you’ll be able to overcome those obstacles.

But, not all relationships are meant to last. And long distance relationships certainly have their own set of issues, which add pressure. With the distance between you, it’s easy to get distracted with other people and activities, forgetting the person who’s miles apart from you *this is why communication is essential*. [Read: 10 myths most people believe about long distance relationships]

If you’re serious about the relationship, it’s important your partner is on the same page as you. So, if you feel something is going on, look at these signs he’s losing interest in the long distance relationship. If so, you’ll be able to talk with him and see where the relationship should go.

#1 He doesn’t communicate with you. If you are long distance, all you have is communication. But if he’s not calling or texting you consistently, it’s a clear sign he’s not fully investing in the relationship. Maybe it’s the distance. Maybe he doesn’t see the relationship as something serious. But the point is, if he was interested he would be investing the time in talking to you. [Read: Here’s your guide for how to make long distance relationships work]

#2 You feel something is off. When you first met, the sparks flew. But now, you feel there’s something off. He doesn’t have that spark in him when he talks to you. There’s no excitement anymore. But if you feel there’s something weird with his behavior, there’s something going on.

#3 You initiate everything. He’ll reply to your texts, but he’s not reaching out and sending you any messages first. You find yourself pushing to see each other, and he’s not showing much excitement. You feel like you’re the one doing all the work and that’s probably because you are. [Read: 10 things to never do in a long term relationship]

#4 No more talks about the future. You used to talk about the future and create goals together, but those conversations have died down. That’s not a good sign. Long distance couples must talk about the future and make plans. If you’re not making goals, then there’s no point in being together.

#5 He cancels plans. You booked a weekend getaway to see each other, but he cancelled the trip at the last minute. Something happened with work or school; it doesn’t matter. If he was really interested, unless it was an emergency, he wouldn’t cancel plans to see you.

#6 He doesn’t want to talk too long. You don’t have many options when it comes to communication. It’s either talking on the phone, FaceTime, or texting. When you do get the chance to chat, he makes sure the conversation doesn’t last too long. He’s becoming less and less available to talk to you. [Read: How to get past long distance relationship anxiety]

#7 You’re not jealous. In long distance relationship, jealousy is normal. You’re not around your partner; you don’t want other women to make a move. But if he’s not feeling any emotion towards you when you’re around other men, that’s a concern. It doesn’t sound like he cares.

#8 He gets busier and busier. Not all men are straightforward with their wants and needs. Sure, he may like you, but he isn’t interested in breaking things off. So, to avoid confrontation, he becomes busy, finding excuses not to talk to you. [Read: 10 sneaky signs you’re about to get dumped]

#9 He doesn’t text back. Or he takes hours to reply. Either way, it’s not a good look. When a guy is interested, he replies to texts as soon as he gets them. If he’s taking longer to reply or his messages have shortened, it’s a sign he’s creating distance.

#10 He tells you he doesn’t want a serious relationship. When you first met, he whispered sweet nothings into your ear. But now that he’s had a taste of long distance, he’s changed his song and dance. Now, he’s telling you he’s looking for a casual relationship and nothing too serious.

#11 You’ve taken a backseat. You don’t feel like you’re a priority in his life. And if you don’t feel that, then it’s true. He’s not pulling his weight in the relationship, and he’s no longer the partner that he used to be. So, he’s keeping you on the side burner until he sees you again. [Read: 9 signs your boyfriend is no longer in love with you]

#12 You don’t discuss relationship issues. Every couple has their issues; we’re all human. Talking about your issues is crucial as it helps you grow and improve as people and as a couple. But if he’s not interested in working on relationship issues, then it doesn’t sound like he’s into being in the relationship.

[Read: The 16 telling signs he’s losing interest in you]

Long distance relationships are a lot of work. But if you’re feeling the signs he’s losing interest in the long distance relationship, it’s important you talk about it with your partner. See what he’s really thinking about.